#LevelUp – Are more women single because they walk in a ‘Girlfriend’ spirit?

There is a current mixed emotional disucssion taking place on social media, concerning the musicial artist Ciara’s recent instagram post about women learning their true value and not settling.  Her post was based off of a John Gray sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFpHCBubf_E.

I have included the article below for more details.

Here is what Ciara posted and I am not sure how it can be misinterpreted as her trying to shame single women.

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If this message causes a woman to become offended and assume they are being belittled by a married woman, they obviously have some soul searching to do.  There is nothing wrong with encouraging women not to settle, focus on their relationship with God and become secure in themselves as a person before becoming a “WE”.  Too many of us rush into relationships without thinking it all the way through; this only leads to regrets.  You do have men preying on the loneliness of women and that is not male bashing, that is a simple fact.  Therefore, we as women have to use our discernment, go with our gut and pay attention to the red flags.

pexels-photo-226166Who has not made the wrong decision at one time or another in their love lives?  Who is without regret for past relationships that are seen as failures?  The point Ciara was making in my opinion, is that women need to learn from their past mistakes, learn to love themselves more and make better choices for their life.  Besides, why attack her for supporting a sermon she agreed with that was delivered by Pastor John Gray – why not attack him?

Once again, if that encouragement causes you to feel bad about your life, then I believe it has simply hit a nerve you have been trying to ignore for some time.  I find it exhausting the way people get offended over every little issue.  No one wants to take accountability and accept the hard truths.  We have to do better, ladies!  We need to stop bashing each other and support one another more.  #LevelUp

Source: Axelle/Bauer-Griffin / Getty Black Twitter is pretty upset with Ciara. So…what exactly did she do? Apparently, the mother of two posted a clip co-signing with pastor John Gray, who insinuates that too many women act like a girlfriend instead of wife. The “Goodies” singer captioned it, “#LevelUp. Don’t settle.” Take a look: Interesting, depending…

via Ciara Dragged On Social Media For Instagram Post About Marriage — Black America Web

~ Author Mara Prose

Reflections for 2017

Happy New Year Prosers!!!  I am so excited about 2018, you have no idea how anxious I am to see how this year pans out.  As per my usual tradition, it is time to reflect on the past year.

NEW ME

downloadI have to say that 2017 saw a whole new Mara.  My confidence came back, my determination returned and my peace of mind finally came into play.  Mara Prose Publishing grew by leaps and bounds, and it went places I never even imagined.  But we shall talk about that in a moment, back to the new me.  What has changed aside from what I already stated?   I healed and I think that is the most important aspect of 2017, is that I healed, let go and forgave.  2017 was the official year of my divorce.  In 2016, I truly believe I was trying to hold onto something that I had outgrown, that no longer existed and was terrified of the major changes taking place in my life.  I can honestly admit that I truly believed we would repair our marriage, but this past year I realized and accepted that those two people who fell in love so very long ago no longer existed and that love was gone – but that it was all ok and just part of life.  In 2017, I let it all go, accepted what was to be and started focusing on the path that God was laying before me.  Words cannot express how happy I am at this point in my life.  I also stopped doubting the God-given talent of writing and started to embrace it, develop it and hone my craft.  Lastly, I rekindled relationships with estranged family, friends and co-workers and built a network of support that was so loving, nurturing and empowering, I had no choice but to grow and flourish.  Life is good Prosers and I pray that 2018 is an even better year.  I have to give thanks to God, my Mom, My Sister and My Best Friend Nicky W. , for bringing me back to life and encouraging all that is Mara Prose.

PROSEY’S CORNER

2017 was the beginning of my very own radio show!  I have to admit that a radio show was never a part of the Mara Prose vision, but I cannot imagine life without it now.  Once again, my best friend has joined me in this new endeavor.  Bless her heart she was just kind of thrown into it with me and went along willing without question, lol.  Everyone should be so fortunate to have such a best friend like mine.

Proseys CornerBut let me tell you about Prosey’s Corner and the premise of my show.  It is the same premise as my blog, my brand and my image: Inspiring, Motivating and Empowering people to FIND THEIR VOICE – just as I have found my voice over the past several years.  My guests range from authors, CEOs, musicians, fashion designers and relationship specialist just to name a few.  I have to give a shout out to Valerie Denise Jones, Phelo the Great and the entire 4E Media group, and thank them for providing me with this platform.  Valerie immediately saw something in me from our first meeting and I will be eternally grateful for all the support, guidance and encouragement she has provided the past few months.  I have made a lifelong friend in her and that friendship came with the birth of Prosey’s Corner.  So be sure to tune in every Saturday 9am CST/10am EST on 4ERadio.com or you can call the studio line 323-642-1391 and be a part of the show.

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LOVE

how to find love2017 was an emphasis on LOVE for me.  As I healed, I started to believe in it again.  Love comes in so many forms and I have so much love in my life, it would be a shame not to embrace it.  As I stated before, I have an enormous support group filled with nothing but love, encouragement and happiness for me.  I tear up as I write this because it feels so good to be so loved and to be able to return that love to all my friends, family, and Prosers.  I started this year being open to all that Love can bring me this year, and everyday my cup runneth over with LOVE, LOVE, and more Love.

PEACE

2017 brought me peace of mind.  I had been searching for it for so long and to finally have it, feels simply amazing.  I pray that everyone finds this type of peace in their life.  What does it feel like?  It feels like heaven, like walking on cloud nine, and feels like I am constantly embraced by a positive energy so strong, I simply radiate with it.  So many want to know what I changed in my life to get to this point.

peace-e1352246783623You simply have to let go and let God.  Whatever your spirtuality is, embrace it.  You cannot have a victim mentality.  You have to own your flaws, your mistakes, people you have hurt and acknowledge the fact that you need to constantly work on being the best YOU that YOU CAN BE.  I cannot stress enough to OWN your mistakes and move past them.  Let them go, accept the learning experience and grow from it.  Life is beautiful and ugly all at the same time.  Just always remember that everything is temporary and nothing lasts forever.  Enjoy the good, remain strong through the bad and do your best to enjoy this thing we call Life.

WHAT’S NEXT?

The Davenports: A Battle of Wills: Pre-sales start February 3rd, 2018.  Official release is March 2nd, 2018!

The Journey to Mara Prose (An Anthology of Poetry): Officially releases May 17, 2018!

Look out for Mara Prose new material to be submitted to several contests this year!  It is time to be award winning!

Mara Prose Publishing Clients:

Southern Belles Cook book: Coming 2018

You don’t know me (A Memoir): Coming 2018

Musicianaire Biography: Coming Soon!

I’m SHINING!  Thank you to all my Prosers for your continued support.  I pray you will continue with me on this beautiful journey and that you have a wonderfully, blessed and proseperous 2018!

Until next time,

Author Mara Prose

The Journey to Mara Prose!

The theme for the upcoming year is all about my journey thus far.  Mara Prose has come a long way since the inception of my brand.  What initially started as a hobby, a past time, a simple way of voicing my opinion; has now grown into an international movement to consistently inspire, empower, encourage and motivate.  I am proudly boasting over 6 thousand followers worldwide and steadily growing every day.

It is that time of year where I need to enlighten all my followers on the future of Mara Prose.

New! Prosey’s Corner – weekly broadcast
Proseys Corner

My new radio show on 4ERadio.com is only getting better and better each week.  As we continue to flourish and gain more sponsors, the time that we broadcast will expand.  We are also planning to add comedic relief to our show in the very near future.  Our show will continue to have special guests who bring a wide variety of topics for discussion.  Please be sure to tune in every Saturday morning 9am CST/10am EST on 4ERadio.com or call the studio line at 323-642-1391.


The Davenports Trilogy

The Davenports Synopsis

Due to unforseen circumstances, we had to push the release date for the first installment to Pre-Sales on February 3, 2018 and official release March 2, 2018.  I picked these two dates in honor of my best friend and baby sister who both have offered a tremendous amount of support and encouragement to the Mara Prose brand over the years.  Book II of the Davenports is tentatively scheduled to be released December 16, 2018.  Stay tuned!

New! The Journey to Mara Prose (An Anthology of Poetry)

I have decided to chronicle my journey to Mara Prose by means of my poetry.  There is nothing I write that is more raw, personal and honest as my poetry.  As I was reading through my poems, I discovered it accurately narrated my struggle towards self awareness, acceptance and my awakening; but most of all the poems encompass the birth of Mara Prose.  You can expect this anthology to be released on May 17th, 2018.

New! Mara Prose Publishing Projects

There is a story in all of us, and I am so proud to announce that more and more people are contacting me to help them find their voice and write their stories.  “Finding Your Voice” has become our new business motto and while we cannot take on all the projects we would like to, we look forward to producing the ones we can.  We have several exciting projects coming up in the new year, so be sure to support our aspiring writers!

New! The Mara Prose Virtual Book Club

Beginning January 2018, I will be holding live chats to discuss our book selections.  These chats will be available on Facebook Live and Instagram Live.  I will definitely have to get used to being in front of the camera a lot more, but I feel it will better engage my book club members.

The Mara Prose You Tube Channel

Is currently in development and not being utilized as a Mara Prose platform.  However, that will change in 2018 and we will release more details on the direction we plan to take with our You Tube videos at a later date.

As always, I want to thank all my Prosers for your support.  I have nothing but love for you and I hope you will continue to follow me on this Journey to Mara Prose.  It is a constant evolution and I promise my brand will always entertain, inspire, empower and motivate!

Until next time,

Author Mara Prose

Mara Prose Monday Edition: Meet singer, songwriter & entertainment genius Elexi!

It began with one woman’s struggle, a dream, a wish, a vision and is evolving into stardom.

Meet Elexi!

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Born Alexis Arielle Adrian Williams, she began to hone her performance skills while in high school.  In her senior year, she was hailed “musician of the year” and  has been making musical strides every since.  It comes as no surprise, since Alexis’ (stage name Elexi) very own mother is also blessed with musical brillance, Lisa Adrian, aka Adrian Fairlight.

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Elexi’s mother, Lisa Adrian was formerly in a band with Perri “Pebbles” Reid called Software.  The band was disbanded when Pebbles decided to pursue a solo career.  She was also on the album cover of Vicious Rumors, Timex social club (but not affiliated with the band).

Lisa was later signed to an artist development deal with TouchTone productions and they did a joint venture with JOE AND HARRY GANTZ to make a music video for her song “Bad Dream”.  The video was shot at the Federal Building in San Francisco; a famous landmark.  At this time, the Gantz brothers were just starting out but they are now EMMY AWARD WINNING film producers who address very serious topics.

Despite all this, Lisa did not get a record deal since labels felt she posed too much of a risk.   The labels felt she was too white for the R& B sound.

But the dream continues…

 

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Following in her mother’s footsteps, Elexi is forging her own path as an artist.  She is determined to be an entrepreneur now that artists are able to create their own businesses and release their own music.  Her goal is to be an ENTERTAINMENT ATTORNEY and she is currently attending college to make that dream come true.

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Elexi is also steadily building an impressive music career.  The Elexi Agenda involves being a POSITIVE ROLE MODEL for girls, women, and all other artists.  Advocating for the rights of artists is extremely important to her.  She wants to address serious topics like the Gantz brothers do.

Elexi is learning by starting from the bottom and what the process truly entails. She is consistently challenging herself to learn how to be the best Entertainment Attorney, who can help artists at all levels, not just the top.  Elexi and Lisa will be the first to tell you that figuring out how to do all this from the ground up has been daunting.  There are no clear instructions because technology and the game changes weekly.  Lisa has passed on her knowledge to her daughter from her previous experience in the industry and her motto is:  YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!

I feel her fans are really resonating with her because she exudes confidence, empowerment and girl power!  Her lyrics are whimsical and fun; they take you through  The Masks We Wear (A Mara Prose Poem) as women:  “Take that mask off, flick it back, look at it cause it’s gone when I say so…”  In recent years, Elexi was invited to perform and record as a featured vocalist on two singles by AM Kidd (who is currently being considered for a grammy nomination)  “Due For Love

and “You Wrote Me”.

Elexi Music recently co-produced a music video (GYGG) with Adrian Cicerone of Rookhill Production to showcase her talents and promote her first single release.

GYGG is a fun song for girl bonding.  It is all about letting your hair down and having no expectations.  I believe we can expect longevity from this talented artist – she is out to change the game and I believe she will do just that.  You can follow all her strides at eleximusic.com ~ Mara Prose

Facebook:  Elexi Music
Twitter: @lifewithelexi

Author Mara Prose vs Nate Campbell: The Battle Royale for Feminism

On Saturday, October 14th, 2017, I had the pleasure of being a guest on Experience the Galaxxy with Nate Campbell.  It was my first time being live on air.  I went back and watched bits and pieces of the videos and there is a lot I missed because I had a hard time hearing.  However, thankfully I am a blogger and can redeem myself.

5141b1839f3c8484cf510750044366f7--boxing-gloves-tattoo-boxing-tattoos Round One Goes To Nate
We started our discussion with healthcare.  Nate and his co-host John feel passionately about the current state of healthcare.  I wasn’t truly prepared for this discussion, but I cannot disagree with either one of them.   Before I officially went live, John made a good point that the executive order President Trump signed into office last week, scraping critical healthcare subsidies will have a negative impact on already sky high premiums.  The further discussion of this topic can be saved for the debut of Prosey’s Podcast with Mara Prose & Nicky W.!

5141b1839f3c8484cf510750044366f7--boxing-gloves-tattoo-boxing-tattoos Round Two Is A Tie
The Boy Scouts, a 107-year-old organization, announced  last Wednesday that young girls will be allowed to join Cub Scouts and that older girls will be eligible to earn the prestigious rank of Eagle Scout.  “The historic decision comes after years of receiving requests from families and girls,” Boy Scouts of America said in a statement.  The BSA said the expansion will help busy families consolidate programs for their children.  On Wednesday, the Girl Scouts responded to the this announcement without a direct reference to the Boy Scouts.  “The need for female leadership has never been clearer or more urgent than it is today — and only Girl Scouts has the expertise to give girls and young women the tools they need for success,” Girl Scouts USA said.

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Nate and I agree there is no need for this consolidation.  The Girls Scouts can gain recognition on their own merits without merging with an all boys club.  While I understand the points that have been made in various articles justifying this incorporation.

 

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Once we worked out the kinks and started to get into more of a rhythm of discussion, Nate was finally able to get to know the real Mara Prose and some of my stances on Feminism.  I do not believe that the feminist movement has caused backlash on the black male from the black female.  I believe the movement has been incorrectly utilized at times, even resulting in some regression (can we say Slut Walk) but for the most part it has been very necessary for women’s equality in a male dominated world.  While race plays a major factor in all topics across the board, my purpose was to relay the message and bring a voice to our plights that they should not be downplayed or belittled.  In my opinion, as a feminist it is my job to empower, encourage and educate other females to progress in a system that was not built for them.  It is a misconception in my opinion that feminists are out to bash men, we simply want our fair share of the pie.  I believe if we worked together as opposed to against one another, these type of movements could give way to even bigger issues facing our country.
Overall, I believe Nate and I agree, it is not about who wins or loses, it is about beginning the necessary conversations to heal and progress.  We both wanted to start a dialogue that we hope was received and its purpose understood.
I truly want to thank Nate Campbell for allowing me to be a part of his show that deals with the uncomfortable topics many shy away from and fail to address.  Will there be a rematch, you ask?  I am game if he is, lol!  You can check out the entire discussion here via http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/108915426.
Until next time,
Mara Prose

 

How do I believe in LOVE again?

As I was watching one of my favorite tv shows, (Sex and the City of course lol), I related to the Charlotte character lamenting about harboring animosity towards her ex-husband for destroying her faith in ever finding love again.  She was afraid to put herself out there, but desperately wanted to find a new love.

This made me think: how do we regain our faith in love after a tragic heartbreak?   How do we pick up the pieces and move on without carrying the baggage with us?  It’s funny how you think about the beginning at the end, but you never stop and think about the end at the beginning.  We all want to believe and enjoy an everlasting love but sadly, all things must come to an end one way or another.

The beginning of relationships contain so much hope, euphoria and optimism.  At the end of a relationship, no matter how amicable, we can fall into the trap of questioning, doubt and hopelessness.  Our truth becomes love does not actually conquer all, and the very emotion that was once our ally turns into our enemy.

First and foremost, to believe in love again, you must heal first.  Do not rebound by rushing into another relationship, you will only delay the healing process.  I know this is easier said than done but it is imperative for your overall mental and future relationship health.  You need to take time to process it all and work through your own internal demons.  I feel you should also accept responsiblity for your part in the demise of the relationship.  Too few of us actually accept partial blame, and instead wind up perpetual victims to the wrong relationships.  Honestly, I am not saying anything that hasn’t been said before, but it is always nice to have certain messages reiterated.

Secondly, I believe it is imperative to surround yourself with the right people – the encourager, those who embrace, the empathetic and all those who are determined to uplift you and see you through a heartbreak.  This is the time to release the clingers, the ME first people and all those draining individuals that do nothing but drag you down into the dumps with them.  Look, this will be the time you start to reconstruct the jigsaw pieces of your life’s puzzle.  It is perfectly acceptable to be selfish during this time and nurse your wounds.

Lastly and most importantly, do not give up on love if it is of utmost importance to you.  There should be nothing that should come between you and your ultimate goal if you focus and continually make wise decisions.  Just remember to proceed with caution, be selective and choose wisely.  And above all else, pray and allow God to guide your steps – meaning keep Him first and everything else will fall into place.

As I stated before, I am not saying anything that has not been said before.  Believe me, I know how hard it is to follow this guidance.  I am in the current stage of if it has a hint of commitment, I run for the hills.  Of course, part of it is commit-phobia but the other part is I am simply not ready to embrace another relationship.  The remnants of my marriage are too fresh and I do not feel I would do anyone any justice by attempting to date and chance someone catching too deep of feelings at this point and time in my life.  For now, I have all the love I need in my life and there is no room for anyone else.

So how do you believe in love again after heartbreak?  You heal, you grow, you learn and then you love again.

~ Author Mara Prose

Mara Prose Monday: Finding your inner strength in the midst of chaos…

First and foremost, let’s say a prayer in remembrance of 9/11, for Houston flood victims and for Miami.

Mara Prose Announcements:

Please be sure to tune into the Roku Channel: The Book Trailer Channel (Twitter @TBTC_TV ‏) to view my book trailer on your big screen!  See my first reaction to it below:


New Projects in Development:

  • Mara Prose App – the book will also be sold from here in addition to my website.  I am still deciding what else I want to do with the app, so stay tuned.
  • New Writing Projects – I will be ghostwriting a cookbook, a memoir and I also have a new memoir-ish book I am 9 chapters into while continuing to work on Book 2 of the The Davenports.
  • Mara Prose You Tube Channel youtube.com/c/AuthorMaraProse – is now LIVE with only videos of my book trailers at the moment but will soon include 5 – 15 minute segments of me discussing various topics.

Topic for Today: Finding your inner strength in the midst of chaos

Adversity builds strength and character.  Who you really are as a person will reveal itself in the midst of chaos, tragedy and loss.  The catastrophic hurricanes that have hit Houston and Miami have definitely tested the limits of everyone’s stress thresholds.  It was a blessing to see so many coming together to help each other through the storms.  It restored some of my faith in humanity.

So how do you find your inner strength in the midst of chaos?  First, you must identify your touchstone and it must be worth fighting for at all costs.  During the worst times of my life, it is my children who keep me fighting – in particular my son who never allows me to give up.  If I see worry on his face about me, it gives me the swift kick in the ass I need to get myself in gear and keep forging ahead.  Thank you Xavier Floyd for being your momma’s touchstone.
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These storms are much like the storms we all go through in life.  It is up to you to persevere.

Until next time, stay safe, love thy neighbor and never lose your inner strength.

~ Author Mara Prose