I’m back and sending a warm welcome home to all my Prosers! My hiatus is at an end and it is time to return to the roots of Mara Prose Mondays. I have spent the past couple of years experimenting with different formats, topics, and styles of prose. Today, I find myself returning to the initial inspiration, candor, testimonial filled blog posts that initially called me to create www.maraprose.blog.
I have spent the past several months learning, growing, studying and establishing a healthy balance in my life. I needed the silence that only comes from what I have so fondly termed my’hibernation’ period. This time of peace and reflection allows me to make decisions about my path forward. I began to pray more and develop a stronger relationship with God. In my solitude and meditations, my vision and purpose became clearer to me and I was able to map out a new plan for my life, my family and Mara Prose.
One gift that I was granted from this period of self-reflection, was the gift of discernment. It was not an easy gift to accept or master, but the life lessons it is helping me to overcome are invaluable. I feel as if the younger Mara walked around in a self-induced fog; my reality was skewed, to say the least. I had a lot of trouble discerning who deserved a place in my life and who did not. For example, in the past, I would allow myself to be manipulated into sustaining relationships with family members, friends, and co-workers who were actually toxic. I am now able to discern immediately the toxicity of others, and disassociation myself without guilt. I have even outgrown the act of simply cutting off toxic people without an explanation. The level of discernment that I now possess has taught me to communicate with others in a more adult and Godly manner…a ‘What Would Jesus Do’ manner. I recently addressed this very topic with someone I felt would prove to be a distraction and possibly cause strife in the balanced life I am working so hard to maintain. My intent was never to hurt the individual, it was to help them understand who I am as a person, who I am becoming and respect all that is me. At the same time, by embracing discernment, it allows me to also empathize with the needs of others and not expect anyone to adjust their beliefs or ideas to fit mine; while also accepting that I am not equipped to meet their needs either. I just knew this person needed to understand that our ideas of sisterhood and friendship were too different to continue to try and force a friendship.
As always, I want to share the steps I have taken to develop the discernment that I am now blessed with.
Evolution is the key to a happy life; at least for me. Discernment is just one of the many stepping stones I am taking in order to evolve into the best version of me. Next week, I will share how my forgiveness and letting go of the past has allowed me to repair relationships that were once irrevocably broken. I cannot change others, but I can change how I respond to others.
Until next time, be encouraging, be inspirational, and be motivational!
Author Mara Prose
Happy Mara Prose Monday!! Yes, they have FINALLY returned. I apologize to my loyal Prosers, I have neglected you on Mondays for too long. Sometimes as a writer, you can get so caught up in achieving your writing goals, you forget to cater to your audience.
If you missed this past Saturday’s Prosey’s Corner episode, you missed out on another stellar show. Blossom Rogers professed a jaw-dropping testimony and Jeffery L. Miller and Jay Thomas provided excellent dating and relationship advice.
The conversation we held made me think of my standard response when someone asks me when am I going to settle down again. I simply say “When I find someone who Matches My Stride.” I felt today would be a perfect day to clarify that response.
Of course, one of the most important areas where you want someone to Match Your Stride is in your love life. If you have ever listened to the podcast or read my good friend Andre Blaylock’s blog, you will be familiar with his saying “We Date to Mate.” Jeffery L. Miller believes there are three main reasons men and women alike, remain in the perpetual state of being single ( you will have to listen to Saturday’s Prosey’s Corner episode to find out what those three items are Prosey’s Corner July 28th). Lastly, Jay Thomas said we should “Talk More, Date Less” which is also explained further during this past weekend’s show. I just have to say again, Nicky and I were provided with phenomenal dating advice during our show.
But I digress; back to “Matching My Stride.” Everyone is striding through this thing we call ‘life’ at one pace or another. Close your eyes and imagine Arabian horses running together in the wild; is that not a beautiful sight when they match each other’s stride?
Picture Courtesy of Swift Aviation
At this stage in my life, it is more important than dating with a purpose; for you can date with intention and still never find the one that matches your stride. This concept is more than ideals, it is about realistically finding the one equivalent to yourself.
For example, the man for me will have his own goals, dreams, and ambitions. He will not piggyback off of mine or diminish my shine. He will be setting his own blaze right alongside me. We will build together for “our” greater good because there is no “I” in “We.”
Another example, my ideal man must match my stride intellectually. If you cannot understand my mind or my way of communicating, you will never understand me. And I am not talking surface level, I am talking about that hidden information you have to purposely seek out. It is more than a “See Mara, she is a nice lady.” It is more about What is Mara about? In my opinion, it is always better when someone attempts to connect on a less superficial level and not force you to dumb yourself down so to speak, to maintain a relationship.
Matching my stride not only applies to dating, but to all relationships in your circle. Remember the vision of the running Arabian horses; do you picture the ones who lose their way, become distracted or cannot keep the pace? First, let me state there is nothing wrong with going in a new direction, it will happen. For our purposes, the Arabians horses that fail to keep the pace, become easily distracted or simply dart off into a new direction would be the individuals that you leave in your dust in real life. Your focus is to stride towards your purpose with the least amount of detours you can manage. You cannot afford to go wandering off after someone who is lost from their own path. Time is of the essence; meaning the time is now for you to remain true to your path with those who match or compliment your stride.
There are several other instances where one should be cognizant of who and what matches their stride but we will save that for another Mara Prose Monday.
Today, I leave you to ponder what is your path, where should you blaze that path and who all should be allowed to light that fire with you? Always remember, it must “Match Your Stride.”
Until next time,
If you missed Saturday’s show, here is your chance to redeem yourself by listening to the rebroadcast!
Enjoy this reblog for Mara Prose Monday!!
Dedicated to my best friend and touchstone, Nicky W., in celebration of not only our friendship but her birthday month. Thank you for all you do and your willingness to go where I go.
It started with a little girl in tears and it’s been thirty years
A bond was formed that day and remained despite some strays
No matter where we are in life, you are always willing to sacrifice
To go where I go, help when I need and encourage when my heart bleeds
You are the wind beneath my wings
You encourage me to flourish and grow
You keep me grounded and on my flow
You accept all that is me, and help to make life more carefree
You have nursed me through some hard times and celebrated the best of times
Thank you for being you
Thank you for being true
Thank you for being not…
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We had such an amazing show this past Saturday with actors Benny Bernard and Roy Coulter. They are two very talented gentlemen and it was an honor having them on the show. Please see their biographies below to learn about all their current endeavors and listen to the rebroadcast via the link below.
Benjamin Bernard Jr. is an actor from Brooklyn, NY whose experience specializes in dramatic and action films. During the past few years, his roles have gained momentum in variety as well as depth, which has made him a popular talent for local productions. While Benjamin has plans to try modeling and singing, his real aspirations lie in film/TV for dramatic and anti-hero roles. His work ethic has always been woven with pride as he invests all of his passion into the projects he has both starred in and worked behind the scenes on. In the future, Benjamin would like to one day own his own production company. He enjoys traveling, reading, meeting different people, and singing in the shower.
Roy was born at Landstuhl Army Medical Center, Germany to parents Roy Gene Coulter and Doris Heidemarie Ingeborg Waske. His father was serving overseas with the Air Force when he met his mother during his tour of duty. He primarily grew up all over the United States while his father continued to serve. Roy was an active child, always participating in team sports and activities such as the Drama Club in high school. He earned his Eagle Scout Award in 1982 and graduated high school in 1984 from Rossville, Georgia. While in high school, Roy was also involved with Air Force JROTC program which he served as Cadet Commander during his senior year.
After graduation, Roy enlisted with the Tennessee Air National Guard in Nashville. He did this for about a two years when he realized his passion for active duty service was stronger than a part-time commitment. Roy went on active duty with the Air Force in 1986, serving in the position of Security Police which later became Security Forces. He would eventually complete 20 years of active duty service; earned the rank of E-7 Master Sergeant, and retired in 2006 with a total of 21 years combined.
It was in 2006 when his love for acting resurfaced after his Drama Club days and some acting seminars under his belt. He went to an open casting call for the part of a football referee in We Are Marshall in 2006, but was chosen to play the role of a National Guard troop at the aircraft accident scene. Roy would continue filming this project as a Game Photographer several months later.
From there, Roy would go on to play the role as a football referee in USA Networks, Necessary Roughness in 2012; Season 2, Episodes 12 and 16. He took his football officiating talents and earned a part in The Game (BET) for Season 9, Episode 10 in 2015. Roy appeared in the new television series on FX’s, Atlanta, as a gun shopper and a basketball referee. From there, he played a recurring role as a Secret Service Agent on Tyler Perry’s production of The Haves and Have Nots, Season 5 and he also played a Kingdom Guard in Season 7 and 8 of The Walking Dead.
Roy returned to the silver screen as a bar patron in the Beech Hill Films production of One Last Thing (2017) and as an FBI Agent for Endurance Media production of Mark Felt: The Man Who Brought Down the Whitehouse (2017). Other projects that Roy appeared on includes, Fate of the Furious, Spiderman-The Homecoming, Love Simon, Logan Lucky, Superstition, and several independent feature movie roles.
Roy is dedicated and committed to all his roles by displaying enthusiasm and being appreciative of all the opportunities afforded him. He is married and has 4 grown children and 2 younger living at home.
Until next time,
Darnell Streat – Emperor’s Cut Cigars www.emperors-cut.com/
Nicky and I had a great discussion with Darnell about his new endeavors. Darnell has cultivated a unique brand of cigars, that will be for sale in July. A lot of thought and energy has been put into creating a unique cigar for those who enjoy a smooth, sensual taste that will relax you and take you away from all your problems. Indulging in this cigar is like indulging in the rarest diamonds, it is game changing and a stand-alone brand. Darnell’s product is so enticing, it made Nicky and I want to try it when they go on sale; and neither one of us are smokers. Books, Wine and Emperor’s Cut Cigar – now doesn’t that sound heavenly. Listen to the entire interview via the link below.
Dwayne Jones – Digital Graphic Artist https://www.facebook.com/dwayne.b.jones
We were happy to welcome Dwayne back to the show to discuss his first art exhibition in New York on July 22nd. Dwayne is a very talented artist and deserves this opportunity to display his talent. We encourage all to visit Dwayne’s Facebook page and purchase his stimulating pieces of work. Nicky & I will try our best to make it to the exhibition and go live so all my Prosers can experience this upcoming fabulous display of art.
My poetry memoir has somehow beat the Davenports onto Amazon. The eBook and Paperback are available right now and if you have Amazon Kindle Unlimited, it is completely FREE!
I initially paid a consultant to format the Journey to Mara Prose for Amazon, but it was nowhere near my standards. So the perfectionist in me stayed up all Saturday night completely reformatting the entire book from scratch. I added new poetry and even revised some of my existing poetry to include a fresh take on my most popular poems.
I am very proud of this work and it allows my Prosers into the most vulnerable and raw side of my personality; a part of me I generally do not allow anyone into. Please purchase your copy and support this second endeavor of mine.
As for Book 1 of the Davenports, Amazon is predicting it should be ready around June 21st. In the meantime, Nicky W. is looking for a new LOCAL printer since we had a very bad experience with the New York-based one.
Enjoy Mara Prose Monday and thank you for all the love, support and most of all your continued patience with the trials and tribulations of the Davenports! I promise it will be well worth the wait!!
Until next time,