Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Redefining Feminism in 2019…

Here’s to another wonderful and happy Monday! I would like to take a moment to give a huge shoutout of thanks to all my Prosers, new followers and everyone who helped me to receive my first 1,000 views in a 24 hour period! I am truly amazed, humbled and full of gratitude that last week’s post, “How to Repair Irrevocable Relationships,” resonated so well with everyone. Please be sure to continue to like, share and post your comments to keep the dialogue flowing.

Let’s Redefine Feminism

In honor of International Women’s Day, I would like to discuss one particular aspect of feminism and the reasons I feel it deserves to be redefined. More specifically, I believe as with everything else, there is a need for continuity and specificity – today’s feminist movement includes too many extremes and these extremes hurt our cause as a whole.

Feminism at a very basic level, is the idea that men and women are entitled to equal rights and equal opportunities. However, one troubling perception of the feminist movement is that it fails to align with the overall principles of equality. The problem arises when too many varying beliefs and values exist in regards to feminism that ultimately hinder solidarity. Equality is too often misconstrued as sameness; when equality is actually the freedom of choice. At it’s most radical, feminism is defined as being entirely independent of a man and working to eradicate the male dominance by replacing it with a female dominance. I have been guilty of a very skewed view of feminism and have even promoted the inaccurate representation of the feminist movement. But knowledge is power!

I believe part of the feminist movement identifies too closely with an Amazonian, Wonder Woman way of life – Girl Power, Who Run’s the World…Girls, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with empowering women; however it becomes wrong when it is at the expense of someone else – whether it be male or female. We as a society have yet to learn that equality cannot be mastered by envoking separation. How do we expect men to embrace equality when we as females, remain so divided on what that equality actually entails? It is my opinion that we cannot make any progress by unreasonably making demands that ultimately make little sense in the grand scheme of our society. Again, I am guilty of holding my female counterparts to the unreasonable standards of a man – I ignorantly felt that if a woman wanted to be seen as equal, then she should demonstrate the equivalence of men in every aspect of her life. How foolish are we…or I should say how foolish was ME!

Now please understand, I am not advocating that we eliminate the feminist movement. We absolutely need equality of the sexes, we simply need to better define equality and consistently apply that definition. If feminism is often equated with hating men, then the wrong messages are being relayed.

Man-hating is totally in fashion right now.

Frankly, if your agenda includes negatively stereotyping a group of people and attacking them, then your goal isn’t equality, because bigotry isn’t part of the peace process (thank you to my super intelligent son for helping to point this out to me). Hate can only beget hate. If that’s your strategy, you’re already on the wrong track and destined for failure. (The Wise Sloth)

Here is how I would love to see the feminist movement progress and evolve:

  • RADIATE THE SAME VALUES – Women make up half of the world’s community. Our duty is to step up and ensure that we help to build better communities for our future generations.
  • END MISCONCEPTIONS – The point of feminism is not to discriminate, put men out of power or discourage men. Nor is it to prove that women are the same as men, and this should not be an expectation. Feminism is not a movement to discourage men. Feminism is not a movement plotting to put all men out of power. Feminism is not a movement to promote women superiority. Feminism is for everyone (Susan Sacirbey). I have personally witnessed countless women expressing that they do not “need” feminism because they are not “man-haters” or not a “lesbian” – the biggest misconceptions of feminism!
  • HOW WE SHOULD DEFINE FEMINISM – Feminism is about women supporting women, men supporting women and a platform of equality no matter what a person’s gender may be. Feminism should be about women and men alike, fighting tirelessly for change, because women have been silenced for fear of judgment for far too long.
    Redefining feminism means teaching a younger generation that it is normal to speak up against injustice. Feminism is a resistance of those who have had enough of inequality and know they deserve better (Joy Webb).

The very same way I was able to reverse my ignorance, I truly believe with the right stance, motivation and persistence, we can reverse the negative image of the feminist platform. We must all work together and understand that we do in fact need one another to progress and contnue to evolve.

Next week, I would like to share how absolutely embracing my imperfections allowed me to embrace the imperfections of others and stop holding everyone to unrealistic expectations that I myself, could not keep.

Until next time, keep moving, keep progressing, keep evolving!

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: How to Repair Irrevocable Relationships…

Happy Monday Prosers! I am so grateful that you have returned to explore another Mara Prose Monday with me. This week, it is on my heart to discuss and share how I have been able to repair irrevocable relationships through forgiveness, healing and love.

Repairing Once Irrevocable Relationships

I want to be very candid about common relationship issues, and how to overcome them. It is a beautiful place to be when you not only forgive yourself for the past, but when you can forgive others as well. I decided to take my forgiveness one step further and work to repair relationships with friends, family members and even my ex-husband; relationships that were in painful disarray and enveloped in strife. Today, I will use the strained relationship with my ex-husband as our example. I pray my testimony and newfound insights will help others in their own journey to healing and mending relations with others.

Many of you are already familiar with my divorce a few years back from my high school sweetheart. This relationship was in a state of peril, animoisty and strife for the past several years. Recently, our daugher made the comment that if only he and I did not hate each other; I knew right then and there it was time to mend this relationship. I took some time to pray about it because the wounds still ran deep, for not only me but my ex-husband as well. I could not change him, nor could I change all that has happened between us over the past several years. However, I did have the ability to change my responses, my perception and my own actions towards him. The dysfunction needed to come to an end; my daughter needed her parents to be able to work amicably together. In essence, what was at stake was bigger than me and my ex; it was no longer about us or who we once were to each other.

A lot of dysfuntion stems from lack of communication, lack of positive role models and unresolved hurts that we choose to hold onto indefinitely. It is hard letting go – believe me, I know! Yet, it is imperative to learn how to allow self healing to take you to new places. My anger was a mask for grief, and that grief needed to be acknowledged.

So I decided to take the time to seek out all the good that remained between me and my ex-husband. The Past had to become just that – the Past! This was not an overnight process, a week long process nor even a month long process. It was a long, hard process that took a lot of prayer, self reflection, discipline and focus on a singular purpose. Notice I say singular. It was not a process that I expected my ex-husband to participate in, nor did I even approach him with it. I simply made the decision to change myself because I cannot control others, but I CAN control who I am, how I act and how I come across. I decided to teach myself how to better communicate with him, how to diffuse the tension that exists between us and how to understand who the man he is so we can work together for the mutual benefit of both our children. We both needed to come off of the defensive with each other and learn to coexist in a world that we will forever have a connection – our kids. We needed a fresh start; a new understanding, now that we both have moved on and created new lives for ourselves. But if I am completely honest, my renewed spirit no longer wanted to cling to that toxicity. I needed to release all that is, was and has been between us so I could move forward and grow in my purpose and not unnecessarily carry all that into the next relationship.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” Paul Boose

It is my personal belief that there really is no irrevocable relationship. There are relationships that will never be the same, and some will always have a certain amount of distance incorporated into them, but we can all work to overcome anything. You must decide the approach you want to take going forward and “change your thoughts in order to change your ways” ~ Joyce Meyers. If Joyce Meyers, one of the top evangelist in the world, could forgive her father for the many years of physical, sexual and emotional abuse he made her endure in her youth – I know that we all are capable of improving our relations with one another.

Here is how I have choosen to renew my damaged relationships.

  • IT STARTS WITH YOU – maybe it means you are the bigger person, the one to reach out first or the first one to commit to change for the better. No matter how you choose to get to a better place with someone, it is important to remember that you do have the power to rebuild, restore and renew relationships. There will be times where this is not possible, but by it starting with you; you can ensure you do not continue to feed into the negativity nor allow anyone to take you out of your character. Sometimes it is not so much that the relationship is beyond repair, it is simply all about how you respond to it and the boundaries you establish.
The person who can see past their own nose, can get out of their own way.
  • RESOLVING TRIGGERS – hurt often erodes trust, compassion and respect for one another. It can also result in a cyclical blame game that only succeeds in establishing an unhealthy pattern of dysfunction. The majority of triggers are developed from a place of contention and from that point forward, every confrontation is met with animosity, resistance and a power struggle. I, for one, had to dig deep and really self reflect on all my triggers, face them and fight hard to overcome them. I am still a work in progress but I have started to relinquish a lot of my triggers and replace them with healthier responses.
  • UNDERSTANDING – it is so important to not only come to an understanding of self, but to also work to understand others as well. People are who they are; you cannot change them but you can certainly change how you respond to them. When you choose to respond with love, respect, and kindness: the universe shifts and difficult relationships become a lot more amicable. It does not mean you have to completely let your guard down, nor is it a sign of weakness to call a truce. It is all about realizing that it is not just about you; that it may in fact fall on you to be the person to reach out and fix it, instead of waiting for others to do it for you.
  • THINK IN THE PRESENT ONLY! – the past is just that, THE PAST! Let Go, Let God! Let Go, Let Love! Let Go, Let Healing. Let Go, Let Forgiveness. It is so easy to fall back on the standard response “but they did this to me, they hurt me, they won’t change” – but ask yourself will harboring resentment and continuing to harp on situations from the past change what took place? Does revisiting it over and over again magically rewrite history? Of course not. The only thing that is birthed from all of this is baggage; unecessary baggage. Why not use the past to make a better present and future? Why not learn from those mistakes? Stop reliving the same dramas, stop playing the victim and stop manipulating – but also make sure that you make it clear to others that you will no longer entertain their drama, victim mentality or manipulations either. There is absolutely nothing wrong with establishing healthy boundaries and expectations. Do not keep score and remember that relationships require a lot of experimentation. We will never be perfect and we will never graduate from the lessons life brings. So be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, all while remaining mindful of the fact that everyone else is doing the best they know how to do, just as you are.

I will include a disclaimer – none of this is a sure fix and it may not work for everyone. I have chosen to pursue the path of that is working for me, and this has started a healing process between me and several others. I still have a long way to go in this journey and the road is not easy. There are many times where I want to put someone in their place, treat them with the same disregard they treat me or even hurt them the way they have hurt me. But where will this lead me? What will I accomplish from living in such a way? Not much, outside of continued pain, hopelessness, bitterness and unhappiness. No, 2019 is about balance and release. This is right for me because it feels too good to my soul for it to be any other way. I have a new level of happiness I have never experienced before and I am truly grateful to God for that!

As always, thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you. Next week, we will discuss how I would like to see feminism redefined in 2019. Until then, be kind, be encouraged and be bold!

Author Mara Prose

Explore Mondays with Mara Prose! How to Apply the Right Discernment in Relationships…

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I’m back and sending a warm welcome home to all my Prosers!  My hiatus is at an end and it is time to return to the roots of Mara Prose Mondays.  I have spent the past couple of years experimenting with different formats, topics, and styles of prose. Today, I find myself returning to the initial inspiration, candor, testimonial filled blog posts that initially called me to create www.maraprose.blog.

Walking Towards Purpose

I have spent the past several months learning, growing, studying and establishing a healthy balance in my life. I needed the silence that only comes from what I have so fondly termed my’hibernation’ period. This time of peace and reflection allows me to make decisions about my path forward. I began to pray more and develop a stronger relationship with God. In my solitude and meditations, my vision and purpose became clearer to me and I was able to map out a new plan for my life, my family and Mara Prose.

The ability to see things for what they REALLY are and not for what you WANT them to be.

One gift that I was granted from this period of self-reflection, was the gift of discernment. It was not an easy gift to accept or master, but the life lessons it is helping me to overcome are invaluable. I feel as if the younger Mara walked around in a self-induced fog; my reality was skewed, to say the least. I had a lot of trouble discerning who deserved a place in my life and who did not. For example, in the past, I would allow myself to be manipulated into sustaining relationships with family members, friends, and co-workers who were actually toxic. I am now able to discern immediately the toxicity of others, and disassociation myself without guilt. I have even outgrown the act of simply cutting off toxic people without an explanation. The level of discernment that I now possess has taught me to communicate with others in a more adult and Godly manner…a ‘What Would Jesus Do’ manner. I recently addressed this very topic with someone I felt would prove to be a distraction and possibly cause strife in the balanced life I am working so hard to maintain. My intent was never to hurt the individual, it was to help them understand who I am as a person, who I am becoming and respect all that is me. At the same time, by embracing discernment, it allows me to also empathize with the needs of others and not expect anyone to adjust their beliefs or ideas to fit mine; while also accepting that I am not equipped to meet their needs either. I just knew this person needed to understand that our ideas of sisterhood and friendship were too different to continue to try and force a friendship.

How to develop Discernment?

As always, I want to share the steps I have taken to develop the discernment that I am now blessed with.

  • First and foremost, be patient with yourself. Discernment is not easy to master and I honestly feel we should all be prepared to work at it the rest of our lives. Therefore, you must be DEDICATED to achieving better discernment.
  • WALK WITH GOD. Immersing myself in the Word of God, prayer and simply asking God to help you discern who and what is best for your life.
  • SURROUND YOURSELF WITH DISCERNING PEOPLE. Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with the wise men will be wise…” I have always championed eliminating naysayers and people who enjoy creating strife and conflict.
  • BE VULNERABLE. We will never develop discernment if we try to shield ourselves from hurt, pain, trials, and tribulations. Life experiences are the only real avenue to true discernment. So live your life and live it to the fullest without regret.
  • BE STRONG IN YOUR CONVICTIONS. Understand that not everyone will understand or agree with your journey towards discernment. However, remain STRONG and trust that inner voice that guides your steps. You must silence the noise of the world in order to achieve discernment!
  • ACT. There will be many times in your walk towards discernment that you become confused and begin to overthink. Always remember, there really is no right or wrong decision because everything (and I do mean everything) is a lesson to learn. Do not allow fear, anxiety or the past to hold you prisoner – step out on faith because no matter what happens, as a great friend used to always tell me “IT ALWAYS, ALWAYS WORKS ITSELF OUT!”

Evolution is the key to a happy life; at least for me. Discernment is just one of the many stepping stones I am taking in order to evolve into the best version of me. Next week, I will share how my forgiveness and letting go of the past has allowed me to repair relationships that were once irrevocably broken. I cannot change others, but I can change how I respond to others.

Until next time, be encouraging, be inspirational, and be motivational!

Author Mara Prose

In Love, Strive to Match My Stride…

Happy Mara Prose Monday!!  Yes, they have FINALLY returned.  I apologize to my loyal Prosers, I have neglected you on Mondays for too long.  Sometimes as a writer, you can get so caught up in achieving your writing goals, you forget to cater to your audience.


If you missed this past Saturday’s Prosey’s Corner episode, you missed out on another stellar show.  Blossom Rogers professed a jaw-dropping testimony and Jeffery L. Miller and Jay Thomas provided excellent dating and relationship advice.

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The conversation we held made me think of my standard response when someone asks me when am I going to settle down again.  I simply say “When I find someone who Matches My Stride.”  I felt today would be a perfect day to clarify that response.

Of course, one of the most important areas where you want someone to Match Your Stride is in your love life.  If you have ever listened to the podcast or read my good friend Andre Blaylock’s blog, you will be familiar with his saying “We Date to Mate.”  Jeffery L. Miller believes there are three main reasons men and women alike, remain in the perpetual state of being single ( you will have to listen to Saturday’s Prosey’s Corner episode to find out what those three items are Prosey’s Corner July 28th).  Lastly, Jay Thomas said we should “Talk More, Date Less” which is also explained further during this past weekend’s show.  I just have to say again, Nicky and I were provided with phenomenal dating advice during our show.

But I digress; back to “Matching My Stride.”  Everyone is striding through this thing we call ‘life’ at one pace or another.  Close your eyes and imagine Arabian horses running together in the wild; is that not a beautiful sight when they match each other’s stride?


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At this stage in my life, it is more important than dating with a purpose; for you can date with intention and still never find the one that matches your stride.  This concept is more than ideals, it is about realistically finding the one equivalent to yourself.

For example, the man for me will have his own goals, dreams, and ambitions.  He will not piggyback off of mine or diminish my shine.  He will be setting his own blaze right alongside me.  We will build together for “our” greater good because there is no “I” in “We.”

Another example, my ideal man must match my stride intellectually.  If you cannot understand my mind or my way of communicating, you will never understand me.  And I am not talking surface level, I am talking about that hidden information you have to purposely seek out.  It is more than a “See Mara, she is a nice lady.”  It is more about What is Mara about?  In my opinion, it is always better when someone attempts to connect on a less superficial level and not force you to dumb yourself down so to speak, to maintain a relationship.


Matching my stride not only applies to dating, but to all relationships in your circle.  Remember the vision of the running Arabian horses; do you picture the ones who lose their way, become distracted or cannot keep the pace?  First, let me state there is nothing wrong with going in a new direction, it will happen.  For our purposes, the Arabians horses that fail to keep the pace, become easily distracted or simply dart off into a new direction would be the individuals that you leave in your dust in real life.  Your focus is to stride towards your purpose with the least amount of detours you can manage.  You cannot afford to go wandering off after someone who is lost from their own path.  Time is of the essence; meaning the time is now for you to remain true to your path with those who match or compliment your stride.

There are several other instances where one should be cognizant of who and what matches their stride but we will save that for another Mara Prose Monday.

Today, I leave you to ponder what is your path, where should you blaze that path and who all should be allowed to light that fire with you?  Always remember, it must “Match Your Stride.”

Until next time,

Mara Prose

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Prosey’s Corner w/ Special Guests Actor Antrone Harris & Celebrity Photographer Cristiano Valentino

If you missed Saturday’s show, here is your chance to redeem yourself by listening to the rebroadcast!

July 14th Prosey’s Corner Episode with Antrone Harris & Cristiano Valentino

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Touchstone (A Mara Prose Poem)

Enjoy this reblog for Mara Prose Monday!!

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Dedicated to my best friend and touchstone, Nicky W., in celebration of not only our friendship but her birthday month.  Thank you for all you do and your willingness to go where I go.

It started with a little girl in tears and it’s been thirty years
A bond was formed that day and remained despite some strays
No matter where we are in life, you are always willing to sacrifice
To go where I go, help when I need and encourage when my heart bleeds

You are the wind beneath my wings
You encourage me to flourish and grow
You keep me grounded and on my flow
You accept all that is me, and help to make life more carefree
You have nursed me through some hard times and celebrated the best of times

Thank you for being you
Thank you for being true
Thank you for being not…

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Prosey’s Corner with Special Guests Actors Benny Bernard & Roy Coulter

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We had such an amazing show this past Saturday with actors Benny Bernard and Roy Coulter.  They are two very talented gentlemen and it was an honor having them on the show.  Please see their biographies below to learn about all their current endeavors and listen to the rebroadcast via the link below.

Prosey’s Corner with Benny Bernard and Roy Coulter

Benny Bernard

Benjamin Bernard Jr. is an actor from Brooklyn, NY whose experience specializes in dramatic and action films. During the past few years, his roles have gained momentum in variety as well as depth, which has made him a popular talent for local productions. While Benjamin has plans to try modeling and singing, his real aspirations lie in film/TV for dramatic and anti-hero roles. His work ethic has always been woven with pride as he invests all of his passion into the projects he has both starred in and worked behind the scenes on. In the future, Benjamin would like to one day own his own production company. He enjoys traveling, reading, meeting different people, and singing in the shower.

Roy Coulter

Roy was born at Landstuhl Army Medical Center, Germany to parents Roy Gene Coulter and Doris Heidemarie Ingeborg Waske. His father was serving overseas with the Air Force when he met his mother during his tour of duty. He primarily grew up all over the United States while his father continued to serve. Roy was an active child, always participating in team sports and activities such as the Drama Club in high school. He earned his Eagle Scout Award in 1982 and graduated high school in 1984 from Rossville, Georgia. While in high school, Roy was also involved with Air Force JROTC program which he served as Cadet Commander during his senior year.

After graduation, Roy enlisted with the Tennessee Air National Guard in Nashville. He did this for about a two years when he realized his passion for active duty service was stronger than a part-time commitment. Roy went on active duty with the Air Force in 1986, serving in the position of Security Police which later became Security Forces. He would eventually complete 20 years of active duty service; earned the rank of E-7 Master Sergeant, and retired in 2006 with a total of 21 years combined.

It was in 2006 when his love for acting resurfaced after his Drama Club days and some acting seminars under his belt. He went to an open casting call for the part of a football referee in We Are Marshall in 2006, but was chosen to play the role of a National Guard troop at the aircraft accident scene. Roy would continue filming this project as a Game Photographer several months later.

From there, Roy would go on to play the role as a football referee in USA Networks, Necessary Roughness in 2012; Season 2, Episodes 12 and 16. He took his football officiating talents and earned a part in The Game (BET) for Season 9, Episode 10 in 2015. Roy appeared in the new television series on FX’s, Atlanta, as a gun shopper and a basketball referee. From there, he played a recurring role as a Secret Service Agent on Tyler Perry’s production of The Haves and Have Nots, Season 5 and he also played a Kingdom Guard in Season 7 and 8 of The Walking Dead.

Roy returned to the silver screen as a bar patron in the Beech Hill Films production of One Last Thing (2017) and as an FBI Agent for Endurance Media production of Mark Felt: The Man Who Brought Down the Whitehouse (2017). Other projects that Roy appeared on includes, Fate of the Furious, Spiderman-The Homecoming, Love Simon, Logan Lucky, Superstition, and several independent feature movie roles.

Roy is dedicated and committed to all his roles by displaying enthusiasm and being appreciative of all the opportunities afforded him. He is married and has 4 grown children and 2 younger living at home.

Until next time,

Mara Prose

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