Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Breaking Soul Ties…

Happy Monday, Prosers!! Today, I simply want to share YouTube videos of sermons I have been listening to on repeat for the past several weeks in an effort to break all unhealthy soul ties in my life. May these videos bless you, free your mind and renew your sense of self!

~ Author Mara Prose

The Narcissist and Soul-Tie Relationships

Breaking Soul Ties

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Growing in Silence…

Happy Mara Prose Monday!! I am so proud to announce that the new and improved version of The Davenport: A Battle of Wills is officially on Amazon. The e-books is live and available for purchase now! The paperback will be available for purchase within the next 48 hours or less. So please, please help your favorite writer go bestseller by purchasing the book, leaving a review and spreading the word!! Follow this link to get your copy today: BUY NOW

If you missed this past Saturday’s episode of Prosey’s Corner with our very special and talented guest Nayomi Charnelle, be sure to listen to the replay: LISTEN

This week I want to discuss the benefits of using solitude to heal, grow and evolve. It can be difficult sometimes to keep things from people who are close to us, but it is important to follow the intuitive guidance we receive. Even if their intentions are good, we may still want to be careful about who we choose to share certain information with and how they hold our vision. Today by following your inner wisdom to keep matters to yourself, you can make the most of the situation.

“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” 
― Henry David Thoreau

Sometimes even the people who love us the most fail to understand the things that are most important to us. If we have a dream that is precious to us, it makes sense to keep it close until it is strong enough to stand up to possible scrutiny and skepticism. We may just want to make our own decisions and learn our own lessons without interference. This too is a good reason for playing our cards close to our vest. We can be gentle with those whose interest in our well-being causes them to ask questions we’d rather not answer. And we may not have to keep our plans a secret for long. But today, by trusting that your feelings direct you to your highest and best good, you can follow them to success.


Next week, I will share how I have utilized solitude to forge a new path in life. Until then, embrace who you are, where you are going and most of all where you are meant to be – in Silence.

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: The Art of Purposeful Seed Planting…

We often hear the phrase “seeds grow”. Planting seeds throughout life is imperative to your growth. I have planted many seeds over the past year – some I am still watering, some are starting to sprout and some have become full grown trees for me to nurture, treasure and cherish. When I speak of seed planting, I am speaking of more than a gardening practice, I am speaking of practicing the art of planting spiritual seeds towards a purposeful life.

2 Corinthians 9:6 
The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.

To conceive and give birth to the miracles you need, you must first plant God’s Word like a seed in your heart. Conception cannot take place without first planting the seed. I constantly meet Christians who pray and believe for God’s intervention in their lives, but remain frustrated with the results. It’s because they are missing the seeds of conception; they just don’t know God’s Word. You can cheat or manipulate nearly all systems that men have created. The legal system can be beaten, allowing the guilty to go free. Our educational system can be beaten, passing students who have not mastered the material. But you can’t change seed, time and harvest. Some people put God’s Word in their hearts for a day or two, but if they don’t see fruit almost immediately, they dig up the seed through their words and actions and wonder why they are forced into a period of stagnation. You have to sow it into the ground over time. Many people are impatient, wanting to bypass the growth cycle and skip the entire growth process. I’ve actually had to tell people that what they were believing God for was not going to happen, not because the vision wasn’t good, but because they were expecting a complete ear of corn immediately. (Andrew Womack)

Living intentionally means to align yourself with your purpose. You do so by ‘planting seeds’ for future growth. Planting seeds is nothing more than planning your life goals, wants and desires and working to bring them all to fruition. Without a road map for your life, it is far too easy to be lead astray. I encourage everyone to dig deep inside themselves, shut out friends, family members and all naysayers and really focus on the internal voice of the Holy Spirit and allow that to be your guide. There are so many people that feel they know what is best for you, but only YOU know what is in your best interest. Never be afraid to push back and set boundaries against anyone.

Everything I have ever wanted in my life has started with a seed, an initial thought, a meditation if you will. When these thoughts become repetitive and turn into a strong desire, I know then a seed has been planted and it is up to me and me alone, to ensure that I am committed, disciplined and focused to turn that seed in something more. Please do not wait on anyone else to water your seeds. But at the same time, remember that it is not all about obtaining your heart’s desires, it is about sowing in others as well.

Lord, save us from anything outward and anything that is not of life! Deepen the flow of life until it becomes something flowing out of us as many rivers to water others! Lord, make us the sowers with the seeds of life. We don’t want to be merely teaching others but imparting life seeds into them! Make us those who plant Christ into others – by having a rich experience of Christ as life! O, Lord, bring us fully in the way of life even in our working with You and for You!

When, Where and How to Plant Seeds

Plant Purposeful Seeds in Your Families

Plant Purposeful Seeds in All of Your Relationships

Plant Purposeful Seeds in Your Career

Plant Purposeful Seeds in Your Finances

Remember, the key world is Purposeful!

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: The Epitome of a True Friend

I originally published this blog post years ago, but thought I would edit it and share it once again since it still remains relevant. Not to mention, my writing has vastly improved over the years; let’s see what I come up with this time around, LOL! 

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. 

My thoughts on what epitomizes a true friend have truly evolved. My standards, while more reasonable, have also elevated and refined. A true friend understands my expectations and respects my values without trying to force me to change to become the person they want me to be for their own selfish purposes.

In my mind, a true friend knows where they stand in my life without validation.  A true friend does not need constant reassurances nor do they feel threatened by other friendships I foster. If this occurs, then it is obvious there is something lacking in the friendship that needs to be addressed. It should be apparent to the world without question or inquiry that a true friendship exists.

True friends do not listen to nonsense spewed by individuals focused on negativity, strife and jealousy. If they do happen to hear these type of comments about their friend, the love they bear for that individual does not allow them to unnecessarily burden their friend with the hateful comments.  In a mature friendship, you should each have nothing but the utmost respect and consideration for one another’s feelings.

I have a small group of really close friends and a multitude of superficial friendships and associations.  With my closest friends, we can go months without talking or seeing each other and pick right back up as if no time has passed at all.  My closest friends know all my quirks, my overall personality, know what I will and will not tolerate and love (and accept) me as I am. 

Recently, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. A group of friends joined me in contributing donations towards her medical bills. I was overwhelmed and touched by the gesture because some of the friends, we barely speak or get to spend time together; a lot of them had never even met my mother before. Some of the friends were from Facebook, who I have never met in person.  This goes to show that it will not always be the closest friends that are there for you, sometimes it is virtual strangers who show you the most compassion, love and support. These are the relationships I value and nurture because they are the personification of TRUE FRIENDS.

The superficial friendships are expendable to me.  They come and go and they are in a take it or leave it category.  I do not have any real expectations out of these individuals.  These are the “good times” relationships I foster and probably never will develop into anything more than that.  This group of individuals are not privy to my personal life, my family and are not really deep or meaningful.  And lately, I find that I do not even have the desire to invest any energy in the so called “good times” moments. All my friendships, whether true or superficial, must remain purposeful.

Here are key indicators of whether or not the individual is your True Friend:

If there is anyone in your life that enjoys coming to you with phrases such as “I didn’t want to be the one to tell you” or the “I know I can tell you because it won’t go anywhere” and just any other type of negativity, that person is not your friend!!! 

If you have someone in your life who always has time to relay ‘he say, she say‘ nonsense, that person is not your friend!!! 

If they are A REAL FRIEND, they sincerely care about your frustrations, your pain and they remain sensitive to the fact that you really do not need any extra strife in your life.

A TRUE FRIEND, knows their place in your life and DOES NOT/SHOULD NOT have to compete with your other relationships.  Anyone that is dead set on dominating your time and energy all while isolating you from your other friendships, is NOT your friend.

A TRUE FRIEND, respects you, cherishes the friendship, nurtures the friendship and wants to see you happy.  They understand and accept all your imperfections and do not use your flaws or weaknesses against you.

A REAL FRIEND, helps to guide you to see the bigger picture and may even provide tough love at times but ultimately they have your best interests at heart ALWAYS!!

Of course, I could never talk about this subject without touching on Facebook.  I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.  I love being able to reconnect with my childhood friends, I love to use it as a marketing tool and I even love the ability to make new friends.  However, I hate the way people misuse it for drama, inappropriate relationships and to send subliminal messages.  Thankfully, the primary purpose of my Facebook account these days is to market Mara Prose. I generally post a tidbit, scroll the news and rarely engage with anyone on the platform. My, how times have changed for Mara Prose!

It is very important to access who your true friends are, cultivate and nurture those relationships and eliminate the ones from your circle who have nothing but ill will for you. 

Until next time, pray for those that need to mature and be sure to value your TRUE FRIENDS!

~ Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Just for Clarity’s Sake…

The characteristics of an authentically empowered personality are humbleness, clarity, forgiveness and love. Gary Zukav

I really appreciate the positive feedback  pouring in from new followers to my blog.  It is very motivating to be touching the lives of so many across the globe.

I have come to realize that some of my recent blog posts have cast a negative impression on past events in my life.  So just for clarity’s sake, let me redirect my readers to the true purpose of my writing.

Writing is second nature to me.  It’s a cleansing that allows me to reflect, relate and release. I like to share my insights and experiences with others because there are so many people that desire to be understood.  Our society encourages people to walk the same walk and talk the same talk.

My rebellious nature cannot tolerate people who attempt to put me in a box and define me by our society’s rigid standards.  Many are drawn to me and then easily flustered.  These individuals project an image of me and when I don’t live up to what they expected, they are bewildered.  It troubles them because they were so sure they had me pegged.  With me, be prepared to always be disappointed.  For as transparent and open as I may seem, there are very, very few who really get me.  Most of my shared experiences barely scratch the surface of my truth.

Just for clarity’s sake 

I have left the impression there is something wrong with the paths I have chosen to follow. Nothing could be further from the truth.  I’m not a one dimensional person. I’m growing and learning, it’s called life.  I happily embrace this in myself.  I selectively share but will shut down when asked too many questions.  Prying will not get you very far with me.  If I do not volunteer the information, it is very likely you will never get it out of me.

I’m a very private person, and perhaps this can be mistaken for aloofness. Giorgio Armani

I’m a walking contradiction who changes on a daily, sometimes hourly basis.   I’m open but private. I’m an enabler but it’s to enable you to help yourself.  I’m a people person but I love/need my solitude.  I’m strong but sensitive.  Get the picture?

Just for clarity’s sake

At every stage in my life, I was exactly who I was meant to be at the time.  I refuse to regret my choices because I needed those experiences.  From marriage, to being a mother, to taking new career paths, it’s all imperative to my journey.  At each stage in my life, I did what I needed to do because it is exactly what I needed to do at the time.  As time progresses, I’m constantly shedding older versions of myself for new and improved versions.  Sometimes it is elegantly executed and other times, I make a big mess of things to get to where I need to be in life.

Just for clarity’s sake 

Art is an expression and whatever an artist chooses to express at the time, it does not particularly indicate that is exactly what the artist experienced. Oftentimes, we pull pieces of our experiences, add some flare to it and use it to heal all while connecting with our followers.

Let’s take Beyonce’s Lemonade, for example.  Beyonce is a marketing genius.  She took an extremely private and hurtful period in her life and turned it into a commercial success.  Do you really believe that she would be able to produce a full album about her husband’s infidelity in the midst of his cheating?  Of course not.  And if people paid attention, at the end of her visual album, she showed how she healed and moved on.

We all experience disappointments, sadness, grief and setbacks.  If you are the type of person who feels better about yourself when bad things happen to others, then you are in need of growth, maturity and a big reality check…and some counseling; to say the least.

Just for clarity’s sake

We as a society need to stop putting people in a box.  Stop reading more than there is into every situation.  Nothing is black and white.  We never really know how people truly behave behind closed doors.  There are always two, sometimes three or four sides to a story.  Even with that, we still may never, ever have a clear picture of who that person really is at heart.

Just for clarity’s sake 

By this time next year, I will have evolved again.  To some, I’m finally living for myself and to others, I’ve lost my mind, gone completely insane and I’m nothing less than a selfish and self absorbed woman.  It’s all about perception.  I celebrate the fact that your perception of me is not my reality.

The simple fact is, I just am who I am.

If ever there was time where we really needed to discard preconceived notions about people, it’s now.

~ Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: How to Build Your Circle of Trust (Forming Healthy Soul Ties)…

Blessed Monday, Prosers! I am so excited, it is officially Taurus season!! We are counting down not only to my birthday on Friday, May 17th, but that is the same day I will be re-leasing my book The Davenports: A Battle of Wills. I have made the official decision to go my separate way from Newman Springs Publishing and maintain all publishing rights exclusively under Mara Prose Publishing, LLC. I appreciate the opportunities, networking and educational support that Newman Springs has provided me over the past several months. However, The Davenports and all future endeavors that spawn from this re-release are best handled by me and me alone. I continue to correspond with Netflix and The Hallmark Channel for a potential Davenport series and the script was submitted for consideration to Warner Bros. Black List Submissions Call.

Re-releasing Friday, May 17th, 2019

Before we dive into this week’s topic, did you catch this past Saturday Prosey’s Corner episode with our special guest, Dr. Andre Blaylock? Nicky and I enjoyed learning about and discussing Scientific Skepticism, The Importance of Applying Critical Thinking to Our Relationships. If you missed it, catch the rebroadcast at www.blogtalkradio.com/maraprosenetwork.

Remember, we go live every Saturday 9am to 9:30ish am CST; you can listen to our discussions by calling our guest line that opens 10 minutes before the start of the show at 657-383-0885 but if you want to be a part of the discussion, you will need to text your name, number and question(s) to (346) 917-0634.

Accountability Partners –
a Christian who pairs up with another for the sake of mutual edification and exhortation to avoid sinful behaviors.

Today, I would like to discuss how to surround yourself with a group of individuals who will have your best interest at heart, will help to elevate you to new heights and willingly keep you uplifted in prayer. When you make this a regular practice in your life, you will successfully build healthy soul ties that will not need to be broken later on down the line.

Just this past week, I joined a phenomenal group of praying women in a bible study group formed by a long time friend of mine. We were each assigned accountability partners – where we are to hold one another accountable for our praying goals and in discarding destructive habits that keep us from the purpose God has predestined for us. Most of the ladies at this meeting had never met before; therefore, if a virtual stranger is willing to take on this accountability for someone they barely know, it is not unreasonable to expect the same from our family members and close friends.

We should all practice accountability for those we hold near and dear to our hearts. I will be the first to testify that had I not surrounded myself with people who truly loved, cared for and had my best interest at heart, I would not have been able to overcome a lot of my trials over these past several years. Once again, it is all about Applying the Right Discernment in Relationships; a blog post of mine I highly recommend you go back and read. Building a circle of trust is not difficult. These people are, most likely, already in your life and already helping you.

Remember that like minded individuals attract other like minded individuals. You must give off positive vibes and be confident in your life decisions. You also have to be very true to yourself. This will lead you to the people that belong in your circle. If you are mindful and purposeful, you can avoid creating unhealthy soul ties to toxic individuals. Here are a few things to remember when creating the tribe that vibes the best with you.

Choose People Who are Helpful

This is honestly the most important thing in a circle of trust. There are times you will need guidance and these people are an email, phone call or text message away. They always respond swiftly with what is in your best interest and you can count on their advice to be not only helpful, but honest as well.


Sometimes those closest to you are too biased to help decide the best course of action. This is because they love you too death and may be overly supportive of any idea that pops into your head. You need people who will be lovingly honest with you; people who do not want to see you self sabotage. They are even brutally honest at times because your growth is important to them.

They should be more than just yes/no people

It is not enough to simply receive quick and honest feedback. No one benefits from the proverbial pat on the back, you need someone who will help you massage out the details and make the best possible decisions. This requires people who earnestly listen to understand and not just listen to respond. They have the bandwidth to take on your troubles and willingly engage in all aspects of your life because they value you as a person.

Embrace All Walks of Life

The people in my trust circle are best selling authors, entrepreneurs, artists, marketing coordinators, fashion designers, bloggers, and more. I love that they’re all different because they all offer a unique perspective. It’s also a plus when they all think an idea is awesome (that usually means the idea has wide-spread potential!).

Next week, we will explore how to untangle ourselves from toxic soul ties. Until then, if you do not have a circle of trust, you need to get to work on building one. We are not meant to walk this journey we call Life, alone.

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: There’s Strength in Numbers (A Mara Prose Poem)


There’s strength in numbers
Best believe
When we come together
There’s much to achieve

Be the change you want to see
Be the one to set other’s free
Be the one refusing to tuck tail and flee

The power within us goes often untapped
We take things for granted and simply adapt
One person can make a dent
But as a whole, we can represent

To represent, is to do more than circumvent
We need to reinvent, relent, and permit
We need to grow, know and show
We need to unite, fight and make things right

Because there’s strength in numbers, best believe…

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: The Exploitation of Narcissism…

Happy Glorious Monday, Prosers! I pray you had a wonderful weekend, and hopefully you were able to catch our first show of the new season of Prosey’s Corner this past Saturday. If not, you are in a for a real treat! Nicky and I had the distinct pleasure of promotion-ally conversing with Jeffery L. Miller and Kiland Lee. You can listen to the rebroadcast by clicking on the following link Prosey’s Corner Season 2 Episode 1.

Prosey’s Corner Season 2 Episode 1

We are coming closer to the official release date of The Davenports: Crescendo! If you have not read the first installment, The Davenports: A Battle of Wills, then please visit Amazon or Barnes&Noble.com to get your copy today!

Synopsis for The Davenports: A Battle of Wills
by Author Mara Prose

For today’s topic of discussion, I would like to talk about the misuse of the term, narcissist. Most people use this word far too loosely. Pop culture often attaches this label to a wide variety of people who exhibit difficult and offensive personalities. It is important to understand that vanity and selfishness do not necessarily equate to Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is a distinct set of traits that are a far cry from being simply self-absorbed. True pathological narcissism is a clinical diagnosis, and the residual effects of dealing with a true narcissist can require years of therapy to overcome.

There are many experts who believe in a spectrum for narcissism; apparently it is a trait that a lot of us exhibit to a certain degree. On the healthier side of the spectrum, a person views themselves as unique and asserts themselves with confidence and authority. It becomes problematic when arrogance, grandiosity and entitlement interfere with daily functioning and the ability to maintain relationships.

So what is the true description of a narcissist? A narcissist preys off of the emotions of others and they manipulate other people in order to maintain their framework of self. Individuals with this disorder suffer from a debilitating set of conflicting symptoms that range from extreme dependency to superiority and disdain for others. For anyone who has been in a relationship with a narcissist, they report feeling invisible, unwanted, disregarded and their needs consistently come last; if their needs are considered at all.

It is important to remember that these are not people who have the ability to switch back and forth between a sense of normality and their disorder; it is called a personality disorder for a reason. This is who they are and this who they will always be. I feel it is important to truly distinguish between self-centeredness and narcissism. The recovery from a narcissist is an intense emotional recovery and I would like to provide a few steps to follow on that road to recovery.

  • SEPARATION AND REFOCUS– understand the dangers of holding onto emotional attachments and LET GO, LET GOD. Sever all ties to the narcissist/abuser in your life and refocus all your effort back on yourself and your new life.
  • REBUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE– reclaim the old you and embrace your personal power, self-love and self-confidence. Use your self-love to turn chaos into peace, and your anxieties into joy.
  • BE MINDFUL OF THE PRESENT – teach yourself to be fully present in the moment. Practice calming your mind daily and forcing anxiety to disappear.
  • BUILD NEW HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS – form healthy connections and focus on attracting better relationships and nurturing authentic friendships with those who support and treasure you. Obtain tools that will effectively help you deal with triggers and ultimately help you to make better choices in the future.
  • FORGIVE YOURSELF!! – always, always remember it is not your fault, it is a lesson learned; albeit a harsh lesson but a lesson nonetheless. Learn from it, grow from it and use it as your testimony to help others.

I hope this helps everyone to better understand what being a narcissist entails and I encourage everyone to apply the term correctly. I am still on the fence about next week’s topic, so let’s just say it is To Be Determined.

Until next time, keep refining, keep shining, keep rising!

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose…How I’m Learning to Shed My Ego for Redemption

Happy Monday, and to the 1st of April!! What a glorious time of year; Springtime is here! This week’s blog post is dedicated to my loving daughter Niyah, for uplifting me when I was starting to question my reality. Once again, thank you for the loving comments about last week’s blog post, “Embracing Your Flaws So You Can Embrace Others.”

I write about the power of trying, because I want to be okay with failing. I write about generosity because I battle selfishness. I write about joy because I know sorrow. I write about faith because I almost lost mine, and I know what it is to be broken and in need of redemption. I write about gratitude because I am thankful – for all of it. Kristin Armstrong

I have been very guilty of having a very large and unhealthy ego. It has mostly been a hindrance, because it bruises easily. I am very accustomed to things coming fairly easy and without a lot of effort on my part. This too has proved to be a detriment to my existence, because it has prevented me from developing the necessary skills to nurture my strengths, weaknesses and relationships. When you do not have to put forth much effort in order to excel, it is way too easy to take all your blessings for granted. I believe this has played a large part in repetitive mistakes in my life. Let’s just be frank, I have always been a spoiled brat, LOL. However, life is molding me into a better person and I am growing daily and practicing “How to Apply the Right Discernment in Relationships.” But God is also teaching me the value of effort, accountability and embracing vulnerability.

My ego feed off of compliments, validation and the opinions of others. Instead of looking inward, I was always looking outward and this left me in a state of Paralysis.

Paralysis (A Mara Prose Poem)

The negative side of my ego is very entitled. It is jealous, possessive, boasting, selfish and unreasonable. It isolates and binds me from the truth. It lacks compassion and foresight. This side of my ego is an attention seeker from those who really care nothing about me and fails to value the ones that regularly, openly and willing show their love and devotion to me. My ego is competitive and a sore loser; it does not allow me to see past my own faults to get out of my own way.

Needless to say, it is a full time job (often requiring an overtime of effort) keeping this ego in check. I believe this is the very reason I have never addressed this character flaw until now. I was too lazy and lacked the proper motivations to make changes for the better. No one wants to go through extreme pain, loss, disappointments and setbacks – but without all of these I would not be the person I am today. I hate what I went through but I love how it refined me.

Can I just say, I’m having a great love affair with this Mara – we’ve been dating exclusively for several months and I really think it could be LOVE, haha! Seriously though, it is the first time I really, really like who I am. I enjoy being more considerate, giving, compassionate, understanding, vulnerable and transparent. Actually, there is a better term regularly used by Pastor Mike Todd of Transformation Church – HOT: HUMBLE, OPEN AND TRANSPARENT. Humility, Openness and transparency have become my redeemers.

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Ego is often equated with a negative state of mind. It can be, but the truth is, the ego is a combination of your personality, identity and beliefs. Our egos develop from childhood, and it is usually a survival strategy spawned out of necessity in order to navigate the challenges of life. The folly comes into play when we are solely led by the ego – this does not and will not ever produce lasting happiness. Leading with the ego is allowing your insecurity and fears to guide your actions. This will birth self delusion, self absorption and create a major disconnect with others.

Picture Courtesy of Quotes About Love And Ego QuotesGram

Here is How to Shed Your Ego for Redemption:

SURRENDER THE NEED FOR CONTROL – you do not want to obliterate your ego, you just want to refine it. We are not our egos, our jobs, our material possessions, and most importantly, we are not our achievements. Once you allow your ego to control your life, you will never be happy. As soon as you lose everything you have incorrectly identified with, it all will collapse and result in the loss of the illusion of happiness you created. Divorce your fears and trust in God! Accept the fact that there are simply some things that are out of your control and there is nothing you can do about it.

BE MINDFUL – the wrong side of the ego maintains a very self-centered, tunnel view of the world. I used to tell people, I keep my circle small because it takes a lot of effort for me to be considerate of others, and I found too much social interaction draining. I still keep my circle small but today, it is in a very different context. My small circle includes those I care about but I no longer have to limit my social interactions out of self-centeredness. If you can relate, then be mindful of that fact that your purpose here on earth is to emote God’s heart, spirit and do His good works. You cannot accomplish this if you are avoiding meaningful interactions with others.

FORM HEALTHY ATTACHMENTS – attachments are categorized by the following: attractions and aversions. Attractions fit in with the ego’s desires for recognition and comfort. Aversions are what our egos cannot accept. It is the aversions we want to manage in a healthy way. Like me, are you guilty of gravitating towards aversions where you feel the strong desire for something simply based off of the fact that you cannot have it or you have been told no? That is unhealthy, toxic and a recipe for disaster time and time again. You should attach yourself to reciprocated love, reciprocated trust and reciprocated respect. The key word here is RECIPROCATED. If the attachment is not reciprocated, why bother with it?

CHOOSE SELF DEVELOPMENT OVER SELF GRATIFICATION – listen more and speak less. Try not to make it all about you; avoid narcissism. Although, in all honestly, narcissistic individuals stem from a wounded self-esteem; so narcissism is often misunderstood. However, we will explore that more next Monday. Self development allows room for long term growth, whereas self gratification is temporary and fleeting. With self development, you can purposely seek out the negative aspects of your personality, understand why they exist and then work to overcome their existence. Self gratification will keep you on the defensive, will stunt your growth and will often lead you down a path of self destruction.

Shedding our Egos for Redemption is extremely important. Without this act, we will never experience self realization or the accomplishment of our full potential. “When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind and beautiful.” — Yogi Bhajan By being controlling, we block ourselves from new and important experiences. By being mindful, we can work diligently to become better people. The most powerful tool to learn to let go of our egos is to practice the formation of healthy attachments. We have to gravitate towards the tribe that matches our stride and vibe (In Love, Strive to Match My Stride by Mara Prose). Everyday work on self development, and enjoy the journey. Be sure to spend 5 minutes every day in solitude, because most of the time silence provides you with much needed answers and clarity.

Next week we will explore How to Overcome Narcissistic Tendencies. Until then, remember to add a little more WE to your ME!

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Embracing Your Flaws So You Can Embrace Others…

Happy Monday, Prosers!! Cheers to another wonderful, productive and exciting week. I cannot believe we are almost into the month of April; where does the time go?

April Showers Brings Forth May Flowers ~ Proverb

First and foremost, I would like to take care of a few Mara Prose announcements before we dive into this week’s blog topic.

  • Wednesday, March 27th, 2019 Mara Prose Virtual Book Club: I will announce the winner for our April Book of the Month. You still have time to join our group and cast your vote by clicking on the following link Mara Prose Book Virtual Book Club
  • Saturday, April 6th, 2019 Prosey’s Corner Returns to Blog Talk Radio from 9a-9:30am: Nicky and I will be returning with a new show format, new featured guests and tons of inspirational anecdotes. Our first guest of the season is none other than the incomparable Speaker|Motivator|Artist|Poet Jeffery L. Miller. Please follow us at www.blogtalkradio.com/maraprosenetwork

This week I want to discuss the value that can be found in embracing your flaws and all that is you. In an effort to add more depth to this discussion, I want to encourage you to embrace your sinful nature; correction, please embrace it and correct it. It is my opinion that the majority of judgmental, intolerant and self righteous individuals fail to embrace and acknowledge their imperfections. As with any other topic, there are levels to this mastery, so let’s explore them.

Flawesome – (adj.) describes an individual who embraces their ‘flaws’ and knows they’re awesome regardless.

Let us not waste time continuing to spout the same common catch phrases about loving yourself, taking care of yourself and not judging others. What I actually want to explore is the act of allowing forgiveness, understanding and compassion towards others to redirect your life. We all are guilty of making a mess of our lives at one point or another. Yet, we continue to allow the small snippets of time captured on social media to influence our existence and guide our next steps. Even when people post ‘no filter’ to accompany their social media posts, they are still only allowing a glimpse of what they want you to see – which is still filtering the situation. We hide behind filters because people love to shame others, and we do not want to feel exposed. It is so much easier to look at other people’s lives and soothe our own insecurities by exposing the flaws of others in order to keep the spotlight off of us. It makes us feel better to know others really do not have it as good as they portray and that we are not alone in our ineptitude. Compassion is often lacking in many, and we like to pride ourselves on being able to relate to society’s misrepresentation of what life is supposed to look like.

THE MASKS WE WEAR (A Mara Prose Poem)

You smile, you grin and no one sees your sins
You laugh, you play with no one there at the end of the day
The masks we wear are uniquely prepared
To keep the world guessing and hide our despair
Black, white and all alike experience life’s crushing blows
Young and old, we are all the same because we all fear the untold
At the end of the day, no one can say that we are not all meant to live bold

Embrace the Change – Bishop T.D. Jakes

I spent many wasted years in my youth, working hard to project the image of having it all together. My deep set insecurities would not allow me to conduct myself any other way, and this often led to the exhausting habit of constantly allowing other people’s perception of me to become my truth. The problem with this method is that everyone only understands you from the level of perception they are capable and the version of “You’ they are allowed to see. This disparity led to depression, anxiety and a whole slew of other problems that made life unnecessarily challenging for me. I was also often guilty of judging others harshly and dissecting their lives based on my own assumptions and my own misery. It was not until I caught wind of friends and family members doing the same with my life, and noting how their assumptions were so far off base, that I realized a change was in order. But if I am truly honest with myself, the false assumptions were my own fault because I was projecting a false image of myself.

Therefore, when I say embracing your flaws so you can embrace others, I am not speaking of embracing superficial imperfections such as cellulite ridden thighs – I am talking about authentically admitting that you have made mistakes and you will continue to make mistakes. It is a simple fact of life. And you know what, it is OK! Until you learn to deal with your mistakes, disappointments in a balanced, accepting manner, you will always carry a heavy burden.

Life will take you through some things and they will not always be pleasant; how you embrace them will determine how you evolve. I for one, have been through quite a lot. Immaturity and selfishness wreaked havoc on my existence for many years. It has taken me quite some time to come to terms with and embrace the fact that the lack of a comfort zone is actually in my best interest. It is the only time I am focused, motivated, determined and operating at my most optimal. In my self imposed comfort zone, I become lazy, easily distracted and stray from the path of my purpose. It has taken a lot of harsh lessons to finally embrace this truth.

Harsh Lessons (A Mara Prose Poem)

It took something extreme
to bring me to my knees
It took a great fall
and losing it all
for me to stall
and simply crawl
My ego took blows
and I completely froze
Everything I had taken for granted
left me stranded
due to being reprimanded
by Life, by God, my own Foolish Pride
I looked back at this time last year
and accessed all my fears
and took note of all my tears
and somehow I persevered
They say God will humble you
and boy, did He ever
I don’t know why I thought I was so clever
I don’t know why but I know I will never
Let myself return to those silly ways
I have set the bar higher and must continue to blaze
The lessons were harsh
but they made me smart
and gave me a new start
They helped me set myself apart
and I was forced to depart
From people who meant me no good
From those who always misunderstood
From the things that were in excess
From the things that just caused distress
So I could simply evolve and be blessed
There were times I didn’t think I’d make it through
There were times that I was oh so blue
Oh, if you only knew
But I found my inner strength
For my children’s sake
And now I can be an example
since I’ve handled, dismantled and unscrambled
and took lots of gambles
But for now, let me stop this ramble since I am no longer in shambles
I’m proud but in a new way
I’m proud because despite the dismay
I overcame, I slayed and made up for those days
All because of harsh lessons…

Unfortunately for most, the perception of stepping out of your comfort zone is viewed as a negative. It is uncomfortable, messy and it has even been associated with shame at times. I am here to tell you once again, change your thoughts, change your life ~ Joyce Meyer. We have to stop allowing the world to control our perception, and even more so, stop allowing the misrepresentations of society to dictate our lives.

Here are a few steps you can take towards embracing your flaws so you can embrace others.

DO NOT BELIEVE THE LIES OF THE WORLD – social media, movies, TV shows and even commercials are fictional accounts of an exaggerated reality. There is no such thing as a reality show and these are not reliable sources to obtain your reality check. We all need to stop looking outwards, and start looking inwards!

EMBRACE ALL OF YOU – yes, there will always be less desirable aspects of people in general. It is not only important to embrace, shape and mold who you are at your core, but you must be compassionate towards others and their parallel life journeys. We all are uniquely created for a reason. We will not learn the same lessons at the same time, nor will we experience the same growth at the same pace. Stop expecting perfection and the mirror image of yourself in others, and start learning to not only embrace all that is you but all that is in others as well.

BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR SURROUNDINGS – the wrong group of friends and the wrong environments combined with unrealistic expectations are a recipe for disaster. I naturally gravitate towards those that bring me peace. I want to be surrounded by people who accept that I am not perfect, do not expect perfection from me and understand who I am at my best and at my worst. You need a group of individuals who understand that the trials you go through are not only life lessons for you, but for them as well. If they are not willing to grow with you or help you grow, do you really need them in your life?

CONVERT YOUR SHAME TO REPENTANCE – Let Go of Shame and Guilt! Stop shaming and guilt tripping others as well. Learn to repent and set an example for others on repentance. Always remember that everyone has the ability to perpetually evolve, make a comeback from a setback and stop putting a number on the amount of chances we allow to each other. If God put a number on the amount chances He allowed for us, He would have given up on us a long time ago.

Next week, I want to discuss and celebrate all those that gave me a number of chances to redeem myself. The blog post will be specifically for those who never gave up on me and for all those who continued to love, support and be there for me when I was at my absolute worst behavior.

Until next time, embrace you, embrace them and embrace ALL!

Author Mara Prose

Prose Is The Path I Chose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: Redefining Feminism in 2019…

Here’s to another wonderful and happy Monday! I would like to take a moment to give a huge shoutout of thanks to all my Prosers, new followers and everyone who helped me to receive my first 1,000 views in a 24 hour period! I am truly amazed, humbled and full of gratitude that last week’s post, “How to Repair Irrevocable Relationships,” resonated so well with everyone. Please be sure to continue to like, share and post your comments to keep the dialogue flowing.

Let’s Redefine Feminism

In honor of International Women’s Day, I would like to discuss one particular aspect of feminism and the reasons I feel it deserves to be redefined. More specifically, I believe as with everything else, there is a need for continuity and specificity – today’s feminist movement includes too many extremes and these extremes hurt our cause as a whole.

Feminism at a very basic level, is the idea that men and women are entitled to equal rights and equal opportunities. However, one troubling perception of the feminist movement is that it fails to align with the overall principles of equality. The problem arises when too many varying beliefs and values exist in regards to feminism that ultimately hinder solidarity. Equality is too often misconstrued as sameness; when equality is actually the freedom of choice. At it’s most radical, feminism is defined as being entirely independent of a man and working to eradicate the male dominance by replacing it with a female dominance. I have been guilty of a very skewed view of feminism and have even promoted the inaccurate representation of the feminist movement. But knowledge is power!

I believe part of the feminist movement identifies too closely with an Amazonian, Wonder Woman way of life – Girl Power, Who Run’s the World…Girls, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with empowering women; however it becomes wrong when it is at the expense of someone else – whether it be male or female. We as a society have yet to learn that equality cannot be mastered by envoking separation. How do we expect men to embrace equality when we as females, remain so divided on what that equality actually entails? It is my opinion that we cannot make any progress by unreasonably making demands that ultimately make little sense in the grand scheme of our society. Again, I am guilty of holding my female counterparts to the unreasonable standards of a man – I ignorantly felt that if a woman wanted to be seen as equal, then she should demonstrate the equivalence of men in every aspect of her life. How foolish are we…or I should say how foolish was ME!

Now please understand, I am not advocating that we eliminate the feminist movement. We absolutely need equality of the sexes, we simply need to better define equality and consistently apply that definition. If feminism is often equated with hating men, then the wrong messages are being relayed.

Man-hating is totally in fashion right now.

Frankly, if your agenda includes negatively stereotyping a group of people and attacking them, then your goal isn’t equality, because bigotry isn’t part of the peace process (thank you to my super intelligent son for helping to point this out to me). Hate can only beget hate. If that’s your strategy, you’re already on the wrong track and destined for failure. (The Wise Sloth)

Here is how I would love to see the feminist movement progress and evolve:

  • RADIATE THE SAME VALUES – Women make up half of the world’s community. Our duty is to step up and ensure that we help to build better communities for our future generations.
  • END MISCONCEPTIONS – The point of feminism is not to discriminate, put men out of power or discourage men. Nor is it to prove that women are the same as men, and this should not be an expectation. Feminism is not a movement to discourage men. Feminism is not a movement plotting to put all men out of power. Feminism is not a movement to promote women superiority. Feminism is for everyone (Susan Sacirbey). I have personally witnessed countless women expressing that they do not “need” feminism because they are not “man-haters” or not a “lesbian” – the biggest misconceptions of feminism!
  • HOW WE SHOULD DEFINE FEMINISM – Feminism is about women supporting women, men supporting women and a platform of equality no matter what a person’s gender may be. Feminism should be about women and men alike, fighting tirelessly for change, because women have been silenced for fear of judgment for far too long.
    Redefining feminism means teaching a younger generation that it is normal to speak up against injustice. Feminism is a resistance of those who have had enough of inequality and know they deserve better (Joy Webb).

The very same way I was able to reverse my ignorance, I truly believe with the right stance, motivation and persistence, we can reverse the negative image of the feminist platform. We must all work together and understand that we do in fact need one another to progress and contnue to evolve.

Next week, I would like to share how absolutely embracing my imperfections allowed me to embrace the imperfections of others and stop holding everyone to unrealistic expectations that I myself, could not keep.

Until next time, keep moving, keep progressing, keep evolving!

Author Mara Prose

Exploring Mondays with Mara Prose: How to Repair Irrevocable Relationships…

Happy Monday Prosers! I am so grateful that you have returned to explore another Mara Prose Monday with me. This week, it is on my heart to discuss and share how I have been able to repair irrevocable relationships through forgiveness, healing and love.

Repairing Once Irrevocable Relationships

I want to be very candid about common relationship issues, and how to overcome them. It is a beautiful place to be when you not only forgive yourself for the past, but when you can forgive others as well. I decided to take my forgiveness one step further and work to repair relationships with friends, family members and even my ex-husband; relationships that were in painful disarray and enveloped in strife. Today, I will use the strained relationship with my ex-husband as our example. I pray my testimony and newfound insights will help others in their own journey to healing and mending relations with others.

Many of you are already familiar with my divorce a few years back from my high school sweetheart. This relationship was in a state of peril, animoisty and strife for the past several years. Recently, our daugher made the comment that if only he and I did not hate each other; I knew right then and there it was time to mend this relationship. I took some time to pray about it because the wounds still ran deep, for not only me but my ex-husband as well. I could not change him, nor could I change all that has happened between us over the past several years. However, I did have the ability to change my responses, my perception and my own actions towards him. The dysfunction needed to come to an end; my daughter needed her parents to be able to work amicably together. In essence, what was at stake was bigger than me and my ex; it was no longer about us or who we once were to each other.

A lot of dysfuntion stems from lack of communication, lack of positive role models and unresolved hurts that we choose to hold onto indefinitely. It is hard letting go – believe me, I know! Yet, it is imperative to learn how to allow self healing to take you to new places. My anger was a mask for grief, and that grief needed to be acknowledged.

So I decided to take the time to seek out all the good that remained between me and my ex-husband. The Past had to become just that – the Past! This was not an overnight process, a week long process nor even a month long process. It was a long, hard process that took a lot of prayer, self reflection, discipline and focus on a singular purpose. Notice I say singular. It was not a process that I expected my ex-husband to participate in, nor did I even approach him with it. I simply made the decision to change myself because I cannot control others, but I CAN control who I am, how I act and how I come across. I decided to teach myself how to better communicate with him, how to diffuse the tension that exists between us and how to understand who the man he is so we can work together for the mutual benefit of both our children. We both needed to come off of the defensive with each other and learn to coexist in a world that we will forever have a connection – our kids. We needed a fresh start; a new understanding, now that we both have moved on and created new lives for ourselves. But if I am completely honest, my renewed spirit no longer wanted to cling to that toxicity. I needed to release all that is, was and has been between us so I could move forward and grow in my purpose and not unnecessarily carry all that into the next relationship.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” Paul Boose

It is my personal belief that there really is no irrevocable relationship. There are relationships that will never be the same, and some will always have a certain amount of distance incorporated into them, but we can all work to overcome anything. You must decide the approach you want to take going forward and “change your thoughts in order to change your ways” ~ Joyce Meyers. If Joyce Meyers, one of the top evangelist in the world, could forgive her father for the many years of physical, sexual and emotional abuse he made her endure in her youth – I know that we all are capable of improving our relations with one another.

Here is how I have choosen to renew my damaged relationships.

  • IT STARTS WITH YOU – maybe it means you are the bigger person, the one to reach out first or the first one to commit to change for the better. No matter how you choose to get to a better place with someone, it is important to remember that you do have the power to rebuild, restore and renew relationships. There will be times where this is not possible, but by it starting with you; you can ensure you do not continue to feed into the negativity nor allow anyone to take you out of your character. Sometimes it is not so much that the relationship is beyond repair, it is simply all about how you respond to it and the boundaries you establish.
The person who can see past their own nose, can get out of their own way.
  • RESOLVING TRIGGERS – hurt often erodes trust, compassion and respect for one another. It can also result in a cyclical blame game that only succeeds in establishing an unhealthy pattern of dysfunction. The majority of triggers are developed from a place of contention and from that point forward, every confrontation is met with animosity, resistance and a power struggle. I, for one, had to dig deep and really self reflect on all my triggers, face them and fight hard to overcome them. I am still a work in progress but I have started to relinquish a lot of my triggers and replace them with healthier responses.
  • UNDERSTANDING – it is so important to not only come to an understanding of self, but to also work to understand others as well. People are who they are; you cannot change them but you can certainly change how you respond to them. When you choose to respond with love, respect, and kindness: the universe shifts and difficult relationships become a lot more amicable. It does not mean you have to completely let your guard down, nor is it a sign of weakness to call a truce. It is all about realizing that it is not just about you; that it may in fact fall on you to be the person to reach out and fix it, instead of waiting for others to do it for you.
  • THINK IN THE PRESENT ONLY! – the past is just that, THE PAST! Let Go, Let God! Let Go, Let Love! Let Go, Let Healing. Let Go, Let Forgiveness. It is so easy to fall back on the standard response “but they did this to me, they hurt me, they won’t change” – but ask yourself will harboring resentment and continuing to harp on situations from the past change what took place? Does revisiting it over and over again magically rewrite history? Of course not. The only thing that is birthed from all of this is baggage; unecessary baggage. Why not use the past to make a better present and future? Why not learn from those mistakes? Stop reliving the same dramas, stop playing the victim and stop manipulating – but also make sure that you make it clear to others that you will no longer entertain their drama, victim mentality or manipulations either. There is absolutely nothing wrong with establishing healthy boundaries and expectations. Do not keep score and remember that relationships require a lot of experimentation. We will never be perfect and we will never graduate from the lessons life brings. So be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, all while remaining mindful of the fact that everyone else is doing the best they know how to do, just as you are.

I will include a disclaimer – none of this is a sure fix and it may not work for everyone. I have chosen to pursue the path of that is working for me, and this has started a healing process between me and several others. I still have a long way to go in this journey and the road is not easy. There are many times where I want to put someone in their place, treat them with the same disregard they treat me or even hurt them the way they have hurt me. But where will this lead me? What will I accomplish from living in such a way? Not much, outside of continued pain, hopelessness, bitterness and unhappiness. No, 2019 is about balance and release. This is right for me because it feels too good to my soul for it to be any other way. I have a new level of happiness I have never experienced before and I am truly grateful to God for that!

As always, thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you. Next week, we will discuss how I would like to see feminism redefined in 2019. Until then, be kind, be encouraged and be bold!

Author Mara Prose

Explore Mondays with Mara Prose! How to Apply the Right Discernment in Relationships…

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I’m back and sending a warm welcome home to all my Prosers!  My hiatus is at an end and it is time to return to the roots of Mara Prose Mondays.  I have spent the past couple of years experimenting with different formats, topics, and styles of prose. Today, I find myself returning to the initial inspiration, candor, testimonial filled blog posts that initially called me to create www.maraprose.blog.

Walking Towards Purpose

I have spent the past several months learning, growing, studying and establishing a healthy balance in my life. I needed the silence that only comes from what I have so fondly termed my’hibernation’ period. This time of peace and reflection allows me to make decisions about my path forward. I began to pray more and develop a stronger relationship with God. In my solitude and meditations, my vision and purpose became clearer to me and I was able to map out a new plan for my life, my family and Mara Prose.

The ability to see things for what they REALLY are and not for what you WANT them to be.

One gift that I was granted from this period of self-reflection, was the gift of discernment. It was not an easy gift to accept or master, but the life lessons it is helping me to overcome are invaluable. I feel as if the younger Mara walked around in a self-induced fog; my reality was skewed, to say the least. I had a lot of trouble discerning who deserved a place in my life and who did not. For example, in the past, I would allow myself to be manipulated into sustaining relationships with family members, friends, and co-workers who were actually toxic. I am now able to discern immediately the toxicity of others, and disassociation myself without guilt. I have even outgrown the act of simply cutting off toxic people without an explanation. The level of discernment that I now possess has taught me to communicate with others in a more adult and Godly manner…a ‘What Would Jesus Do’ manner. I recently addressed this very topic with someone I felt would prove to be a distraction and possibly cause strife in the balanced life I am working so hard to maintain. My intent was never to hurt the individual, it was to help them understand who I am as a person, who I am becoming and respect all that is me. At the same time, by embracing discernment, it allows me to also empathize with the needs of others and not expect anyone to adjust their beliefs or ideas to fit mine; while also accepting that I am not equipped to meet their needs either. I just knew this person needed to understand that our ideas of sisterhood and friendship were too different to continue to try and force a friendship.

How to develop Discernment?

As always, I want to share the steps I have taken to develop the discernment that I am now blessed with.

  • First and foremost, be patient with yourself. Discernment is not easy to master and I honestly feel we should all be prepared to work at it the rest of our lives. Therefore, you must be DEDICATED to achieving better discernment.
  • WALK WITH GOD. Immersing myself in the Word of God, prayer and simply asking God to help you discern who and what is best for your life.
  • SURROUND YOURSELF WITH DISCERNING PEOPLE. Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with the wise men will be wise…” I have always championed eliminating naysayers and people who enjoy creating strife and conflict.
  • BE VULNERABLE. We will never develop discernment if we try to shield ourselves from hurt, pain, trials, and tribulations. Life experiences are the only real avenue to true discernment. So live your life and live it to the fullest without regret.
  • BE STRONG IN YOUR CONVICTIONS. Understand that not everyone will understand or agree with your journey towards discernment. However, remain STRONG and trust that inner voice that guides your steps. You must silence the noise of the world in order to achieve discernment!
  • ACT. There will be many times in your walk towards discernment that you become confused and begin to overthink. Always remember, there really is no right or wrong decision because everything (and I do mean everything) is a lesson to learn. Do not allow fear, anxiety or the past to hold you prisoner – step out on faith because no matter what happens, as a great friend used to always tell me “IT ALWAYS, ALWAYS WORKS ITSELF OUT!”

Evolution is the key to a happy life; at least for me. Discernment is just one of the many stepping stones I am taking in order to evolve into the best version of me. Next week, I will share how my forgiveness and letting go of the past has allowed me to repair relationships that were once irrevocably broken. I cannot change others, but I can change how I respond to others.

Until next time, be encouraging, be inspirational, and be motivational!

Author Mara Prose

DAILY MP REBLOG: In Love, Strive to Match My Stride…

I am currently in the process of remastering all the episodes from previous seasons of Prosey’s Corner.   There is one particular episode that included special guest Blossom Rogers, who professed a jaw-dropping testimony and my good friends Jeffery L. Miller and Jay Thomas who provided excellent dating and relationship advice.

The conversation we held made me think of my standard response when someone asks me when am I going to settle down again.  I simply say “When I find someone who Matches My Stride.”  I felt today would be a perfect day to clarify that response.

Of course, one of the most important areas where you want someone to Match Your Stride is in your love life.  If you have ever listened to the podcast or read my good friend Andre Blaylock’s blog, you will be familiar with his saying “We Date to Mate.”  Jeffery L. Miller believes there are three main reasons men and women alike, remain in the perpetual state of being single ( click here to listen to Prosey’s Corner July 28th).  Lastly, Jay Thomas said we should “Talk More, Date Less” which is also explained further during this  show.  I just have to say again, Nicky and I enjoyed the phenomenal dating advice received during our show.

But I digress; back to “Matching My Stride.”  Everyone is striding through this thing we call ‘life’ at one pace or another.  Close your eyes and imagine Arabian horses running together in the wild; is that not a beautiful sight when they match each other’s stride?


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At this stage in my life, it is more important than dating with a purpose; for you can date with intention and still never find the one that matches your stride.  This concept is more than ideals, it is about realistically finding the one equivalent to yourself.

For example, the man for me will have his own goals, dreams, and ambitions.  He will not piggyback off of mine or diminish my shine.  He will be setting his own blaze right alongside me.  We will build together for “our” greater good because there is no “I” in “We.”

Another example, my ideal man must match my stride intellectually.  If you cannot understand my mind or my way of communicating, you will never understand me.  And I am not speaking of surface level, I am talking about that hidden information you have to purposely seek out with sincere interest, the right intentions and consistency.  It is more than a “See Mara, she is a nice lady.”  It is more about What is Mara about?  In my opinion, it is always better when someone attempts to connect with some depth and ask meaningful questions, while being receptive to the same inquiry.


Matching my stride not only applies to dating, but to all relationships in your circle.  Remember the vision of the running Arabian horses; do you picture the ones who lose their way, become distracted or cannot keep the pace?  First, let me state there is nothing wrong with going in a new direction, it will happen.  For our purposes, the Arabians horses that fail to maintain the pace, become easily distracted or simply dart off into a new direction would be the individuals that you leave in your dust in real life.  Your focus is to stride towards your purpose with the least amount of detours you can manage.  You cannot afford to go wandering off after someone who is lost from their own path.  Time is of the essence; meaning the time is now for you to remain true to your path with those who match or compliment your stride.

There are several other instances where one should be cognizant of who and what matches their stride but we will save that for another Mara Prose Monday.

Today, I leave you to ponder what is your path, where should you blaze that path and who all should be allowed to light that fire with you?  Always remember, it must “Match Your Stride.”

Until next time,

Author Mara Prose

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Prosey’s Corner w/ Special Guests Actor Antrone Harris & Celebrity Photographer Cristiano Valentino

If you missed Saturday’s show, here is your chance to redeem yourself by listening to the rebroadcast!

July 14th Prosey’s Corner Episode with Antrone Harris & Cristiano Valentino

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Touchstone (A Mara Prose Poem)

Enjoy this reblog for Mara Prose Monday!!

Author Mara Prose

Dedicated to my best friend and touchstone, Nicky W., in celebration of not only our friendship but her birthday month.  Thank you for all you do and your willingness to go where I go.

It started with a little girl in tears and it’s been thirty years
A bond was formed that day and remained despite some strays
No matter where we are in life, you are always willing to sacrifice
To go where I go, help when I need and encourage when my heart bleeds

You are the wind beneath my wings
You encourage me to flourish and grow
You keep me grounded and on my flow
You accept all that is me, and help to make life more carefree
You have nursed me through some hard times and celebrated the best of times

Thank you for being you
Thank you for being true
Thank you for being not…

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Prosey’s Corner with Special Guests Actors Benny Bernard & Roy Coulter

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We had such an amazing show this past Saturday with actors Benny Bernard and Roy Coulter.  They are two very talented gentlemen and it was an honor having them on the show.  Please see their biographies below to learn about all their current endeavors and listen to the rebroadcast via the link below.

Prosey’s Corner with Benny Bernard and Roy Coulter

Benny Bernard

Benjamin Bernard Jr. is an actor from Brooklyn, NY whose experience specializes in dramatic and action films. During the past few years, his roles have gained momentum in variety as well as depth, which has made him a popular talent for local productions. While Benjamin has plans to try modeling and singing, his real aspirations lie in film/TV for dramatic and anti-hero roles. His work ethic has always been woven with pride as he invests all of his passion into the projects he has both starred in and worked behind the scenes on. In the future, Benjamin would like to one day own his own production company. He enjoys traveling, reading, meeting different people, and singing in the shower.

Roy Coulter

Roy was born at Landstuhl Army Medical Center, Germany to parents Roy Gene Coulter and Doris Heidemarie Ingeborg Waske. His father was serving overseas with the Air Force when he met his mother during his tour of duty. He primarily grew up all over the United States while his father continued to serve. Roy was an active child, always participating in team sports and activities such as the Drama Club in high school. He earned his Eagle Scout Award in 1982 and graduated high school in 1984 from Rossville, Georgia. While in high school, Roy was also involved with Air Force JROTC program which he served as Cadet Commander during his senior year.

After graduation, Roy enlisted with the Tennessee Air National Guard in Nashville. He did this for about a two years when he realized his passion for active duty service was stronger than a part-time commitment. Roy went on active duty with the Air Force in 1986, serving in the position of Security Police which later became Security Forces. He would eventually complete 20 years of active duty service; earned the rank of E-7 Master Sergeant, and retired in 2006 with a total of 21 years combined.

It was in 2006 when his love for acting resurfaced after his Drama Club days and some acting seminars under his belt. He went to an open casting call for the part of a football referee in We Are Marshall in 2006, but was chosen to play the role of a National Guard troop at the aircraft accident scene. Roy would continue filming this project as a Game Photographer several months later.

From there, Roy would go on to play the role as a football referee in USA Networks, Necessary Roughness in 2012; Season 2, Episodes 12 and 16. He took his football officiating talents and earned a part in The Game (BET) for Season 9, Episode 10 in 2015. Roy appeared in the new television series on FX’s, Atlanta, as a gun shopper and a basketball referee. From there, he played a recurring role as a Secret Service Agent on Tyler Perry’s production of The Haves and Have Nots, Season 5 and he also played a Kingdom Guard in Season 7 and 8 of The Walking Dead.

Roy returned to the silver screen as a bar patron in the Beech Hill Films production of One Last Thing (2017) and as an FBI Agent for Endurance Media production of Mark Felt: The Man Who Brought Down the Whitehouse (2017). Other projects that Roy appeared on includes, Fate of the Furious, Spiderman-The Homecoming, Love Simon, Logan Lucky, Superstition, and several independent feature movie roles.

Roy is dedicated and committed to all his roles by displaying enthusiasm and being appreciative of all the opportunities afforded him. He is married and has 4 grown children and 2 younger living at home.

Until next time,

Mara Prose

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It’s Mara Prose Monday!! Prosey’s Corner with Darnell Streat & Dwayne Jones

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Darnell Streat – Emperor’s Cut Cigars www.emperors-cut.com/

Nicky and I had a great discussion with Darnell about his new endeavors.  Darnell has cultivated a unique brand of cigars, that will be for sale in July.  A lot of thought and energy has been put into creating a unique cigar for those who enjoy a smooth, sensual taste that will relax you and take you away from all your problems.   Indulging in this cigar is like indulging in the rarest diamonds, it is game changing and a stand-alone brand.  Darnell’s product is so enticing, it made Nicky and I want to try it when they go on sale; and neither one of us are smokers.  Books, Wine and Emperor’s Cut Cigar – now doesn’t that sound heavenly.  Listen to the entire interview via the link below.

Dwayne Jones – Digital Graphic Artist https://www.facebook.com/dwayne.b.jones

We were happy to welcome Dwayne back to the show to discuss his first art exhibition in New York on July 22nd.  Dwayne is a very talented artist and deserves this opportunity to display his talent.  We encourage all to visit Dwayne’s Facebook page and purchase his stimulating pieces of work.   Nicky & I will try our best to make it to the exhibition and go live so all my Prosers can experience this upcoming fabulous display of art.

June 16th, 2018 Prosey’s Corner Full Episode with Darnell Streat & Dwayne Jones


The Journey to Mara Prose – A Memoir told via Poetry!

My poetry memoir has somehow beat the Davenports onto Amazon. The eBook and Paperback are available right now and if you have Amazon Kindle Unlimited, it is completely FREE!

I initially paid a consultant to format the Journey to Mara Prose for Amazon, but it was nowhere near my standards. So the perfectionist in me stayed up all Saturday night completely reformatting the entire book from scratch. I added new poetry and even revised some of my existing poetry to include a fresh take on my most popular poems.

I am very proud of this work and it allows my Prosers into the most vulnerable and raw side of my personality; a part of me I generally do not allow anyone into. Please purchase your copy and support this second endeavor of mine.

As for Book 1 of the Davenports, Amazon is predicting it should be ready around June 21st. In the meantime, Nicky W. is looking for a new LOCAL printer since we had a very bad experience with the New York-based one.

Enjoy Mara Prose Monday and thank you for all the love, support and most of all your continued patience with the trials and tribulations of the Davenports! I promise it will be well worth the wait!!

The Journey to Mara Prose Amazon eBook Purchase Link

The Journey to Mara Prose Amazon Paperback Purchase Link

Until next time,

Mara Prose


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The Mara Prose Virtual Women’s Empowerment

It’s Mara Prose Monday!!

Enjoy the re-broadcast of my Virtual Women’s Empowerment Conference!!


womens empowerment

Prosey’s Corner Special Guests Digital Artist Dwayne Jones & Actor Lane Lovegrove (05-19-18)

It’s Mara Prose Monday!  And now, Mondays will bring our followers the replay of the guests we have on Prosey’s Corner each weekend.  But first, let’s get some basic announcements out of the way.

Mara Prose Announcements

  • Book 1 of the Davenports goes on sale again May 31st.  All purchase links will be posted on social media for your convenience.  *All Pre-Orders should be received well before that date.  If not, please email maraprose@maraprose.blog asap.*
  • June 2018 – Prosey’s Corner will become a bi-weekly broadcast.
  • May-August 2018: Come participate in the Summer of Romance.  Each month in the Mara Prose Virtual Book Club, we will vote on and select 2-3 romances to discuss throughout the month.

Prosey’s Corner May 18th, 2018

If you missed our Saturday morning broadcast, you missed out on two great interviews conducted by Nicky W.  Lucky for you, I have the replay link:  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/maraprosenetwork/2018/05/19/proseys-corner-sat-may-19th-2018-930am-cst1030am-est

Dwayne Jones – Digital Artist

Dwayne is a rare combination of discipline, dedication, and self-education in regards to his artistry.  He began his career as a fun past time, practiced in stolen moments of free time from his growing personal training business.   With more and more demands for his digital artwork, Dwayne knew he had another business in the making.  He finds inspiration in his everyday life and spends countless hours perfecting his craft.  His art is unique and he enjoys delaying the gratification of each piece by waiting a few days after a project is completed before releasing it to the public.  The pieces that do make it to the public eye are ones Dwayne wholeheartedly believes in and only ones that prove eye-catching.  This method obviously works since it was one of his designs that initially caught the Art eye of Mara Prose in a Facebook group.

If you have any interest in purchasing his stellar work, please visit his website to submit your request.  Thank you, Dwayne, for being a part of Prosey’s Corner!  We love your talent!

Lane Lovegrove
IMDb: Actor Lane Lovegrove

Actor Lane Lovegrove is a jack of many trades – but his biggest passion in life is being a father.  This is probably why he gravitates more towards the “Dad” roles and has been able to make a successful acting career.  Residing near Charlotte, North Carolina, Lane began to pursue acting in his mid-thirties.  Once he decided to treat it more as a business opportunity, he began to book several commercials, movies, and tv shows.

Lane has been fortunate enough to work with Channing Tatum, with the cast of Homeland and on the hit tv series Banshee.  When he has spare time, he enjoys mentoring other actors and encouraging them to pursue their goals in the industry.  In the very near future, he plans to start his own blog specifically for fathers.

With an indie film and a new episode on Investigation Discovery, called Silencer, Lane continues to pave his own way towards success.  We enjoyed having Lane on Prosey’s Corner and we cannot wait to have him back on the show very soon.

Until next time,

Mara Prose

Mara Prose Monday! Find Yourself by Elam B. King

Mailing The Davenport Copies This Week!

If you have already placed your order, thank you so much!  The printed book copies will be delivered later this week and we will begin completing all orders this weekend.  I refrained from uploading the book to any other platforms until we finalized the proofs of the physical copies so you will have several new links to purchase from this weekend – to be announced on Saturday’s Prosey Corner episode.  The Journey to Mara Prose (A Book of Poetry) will be released in May 2018!

Hardback and Softback Announcement

Wakanda Forever!

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*Keeping this brief until the movie has been out a little longer.*

I was fortunate to be able to see the “Black Panther” movie the very first opening night.  This movie is so captivating from beginning to end.  It is so much more than simply a superhero movie, it delivers so many messages, ideals and traditions.  It is not only shattering movie records, it is shattering negative stereotypes.  I will not go into a lot of detail about the movie’s premise because I feel everyone needs to see the movie for themselves and form their own opinion.  However, I will discuss the messages I derived from the movie.

First, let me state how proud this movie has made me.  It was refreshing to see our black community depicted in such an elegant and regal manner.  The movie managed to entertain while educating without preaching; and that is a rare achievement.  The overall message to me is about Unity – unity in our community , unity between our black men and women and unity among different races.

There was honestly so much I wanted to say but with the movie being so newly released, I did not know how to say it all without giving spoilers (enough reviews have already done that).  So let me just pay homage by sending a clear message to Hollywood – “All you have to do is look at the opening weekend numbers, and you will clearly see we are starved for my diversity in our movies.”

I will follow up with an additional blog to really dive into this movie after a couple of weeks have passed.

~ Author Mara Prose

Touchstone (A Mara Prose Poem)

Dedicated to my best friend and touchstone, Nicky W., in celebration of not only our friendship but her birthday month.  Thank you for all you do and your willingness to go where I go.

It started with a little girl in tears and it’s been thirty years
A bond was formed that day and remained despite some strays
No matter where we are in life, you are always willing to sacrifice
To go where I go, help when I need and encourage when my heart bleeds

You are the wind beneath my wings
You encourage me to flourish and grow
You keep me grounded and on my flow
You accept all that is me, and help to make life more carefree
You have nursed me through some hard times and celebrated the best of times

Thank you for being you
Thank you for being true
Thank you for being not only my friend
Thank you for being a Godsend
You are truly my sister from another mister

We will be best friends no matter the distance
And our bond will carry on even after our existence
To the woman who has dried many tears, squelched many fears and always sends cheers
Never change, God bless you, thank you and much love to you…my Touchstone!

~Author Mara Prose

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