I am currently in the process of remastering all the episodes from previous seasons of Prosey’s Corner. There is one particular episode that included special guest Blossom Rogers, who professed a jaw-dropping testimony and my good friends Jeffery L. Miller and Jay Thomas who provided excellent dating and relationship advice.
The conversation we held made me think of my standard response when someone asks me when am I going to settle down again. I simply say “When I find someone who Matches My Stride.” I felt today would be a perfect day to clarify that response.
Of course, one of the most important areas where you want someone to Match Your Stride is in your love life. If you have ever listened to the podcast or read my good friend Andre Blaylock’s blog, you will be familiar with his saying “We Date to Mate.” Jeffery L. Miller believes there are three main reasons men and women alike, remain in the perpetual state of being single ( click here to listen to Prosey’s Corner July 28th). Lastly, Jay Thomas said we should “Talk More, Date Less” which is also explained further during this show. I just have to say again, Nicky and I enjoyed the phenomenal dating advice received during our show.
But I digress; back to “Matching My Stride.” Everyone is striding through this thing we call ‘life’ at one pace or another. Close your eyes and imagine Arabian horses running together in the wild; is that not a beautiful sight when they match each other’s stride?
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At this stage in my life, it is more important than dating with a purpose; for you can date with intention and still never find the one that matches your stride. This concept is more than ideals, it is about realistically finding the one equivalent to yourself.
For example, the man for me will have his own goals, dreams, and ambitions. He will not piggyback off of mine or diminish my shine. He will be setting his own blaze right alongside me. We will build together for “our” greater good because there is no “I” in “We.”
Another example, my ideal man must match my stride intellectually. If you cannot understand my mind or my way of communicating, you will never understand me. And I am not speaking of surface level, I am talking about that hidden information you have to purposely seek out with sincere interest, the right intentions and consistency. It is more than a “See Mara, she is a nice lady.” It is more about What is Mara about? In my opinion, it is always better when someone attempts to connect with some depth and ask meaningful questions, while being receptive to the same inquiry.
Matching my stride not only applies to dating, but to all relationships in your circle. Remember the vision of the running Arabian horses; do you picture the ones who lose their way, become distracted or cannot keep the pace? First, let me state there is nothing wrong with going in a new direction, it will happen. For our purposes, the Arabians horses that fail to maintain the pace, become easily distracted or simply dart off into a new direction would be the individuals that you leave in your dust in real life. Your focus is to stride towards your purpose with the least amount of detours you can manage. You cannot afford to go wandering off after someone who is lost from their own path. Time is of the essence; meaning the time is now for you to remain true to your path with those who match or compliment your stride.
There are several other instances where one should be cognizant of who and what matches their stride but we will save that for another Mara Prose Monday.
Today, I leave you to ponder what is your path, where should you blaze that path and who all should be allowed to light that fire with you? Always remember, it must “Match Your Stride.”
Until next time,
Author Mara Prose
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